Am I in the wrong for thinking and telling my sister she’ll be a bad mother?
I (22F) have a sister (25F) Jane. Jane has asked me in the past if I think she’ll be a good mother and to not her feelings I said maybe. I explained to her the risks, the mental health toll, the stress of having a kid.
Fast forward to yesterday I told her I don’t think she’d be a good mother. She has really bad mental health issues, she has psychosis from drugs, she isn’t financially stable. She is on a limited income. I told her that with her mental health I don’t think she’d survive having to go off her meds for pregnancy or she won’t survive the postpartum depression. I told her after birth your hormones get really messed up. I also told her that her not having a job and being on a limited income isn’t going to be good for having a kid. Kids are expensive. I also told her she was abusive to me in the past and she can’t even handle her cat most days and is kinda abusive to it. I also brought up she never shares and with kids they expect you to share everything, she doesn’t even share with her boyfriend. Also that you’ll have to put someone else before you.
She said to me in response that I don’t see what her and her boyfriend see. She also said she’ll wait till she’s 26. She’s turning 26 this year.
My parents know and have explained they won’t raise her kid or if it shows signs of abuse they will report her. I don’t think Jane fully believes them.
I really don’t think she’ll be a good mother and I told her my thoughts but I kinda feel like an asshole but I’m also mad she’s living in this fantasy world and not thinking about it logically. Every issue I mentioned or things I mentioned that’s not in the post she makes an excuse that won’t be helpful.
So am I in the wrong for thinking she’ll be a bad mother?