Not just "I'm quirky and unique". I'm looking for something like Taxi Driver and The Nightcrawler, or, on a lesser level, Fight Club; Where the atmosphere is gritty and the protagonist gets to experience some kind of change in his life that leads him to abandon his normal life to live following some goal. Detectives don't count unless they had a totally different job and gave up on everything to solve a case on their own.
Ideologies are great for textbooks, news, history, etc. But how can we benefit from acknowledging when one is following this or that ideology, or in a discussion of how to do something in daily life?
That is, without blinding ourselves or giving in to petty fights.
What's the ethical approach to take when people around you have bad habits (e.g.: unsupervised children addicted to screens; friends with spending issues; friends desperately trying to overcome divorce/breakup with dating sprees) and you seem to be the only one who has the knowledge and time to help them, but they tell you it's not your business?
What I personally understand as a boundary is something like privacy, distance (to not be assaulted or flirted with), to not be embarrassed or ridiculed, etc. But when people's attitudes are hurting them and someone tries to stop them, they call it a boundary.
Don't mean to sound like old times were better as a whole, but there should be a limit to how much one hurts themselves to the point of taking every intervention as abuse, before assisted su1cide becomes an everyday occurrence.
Sorry if I sound rude, but the concept of helping others has become very confusing to me.
Onde eu moro quase não tem livraria (ou sebo), quem dirá uma que venda mangás, então sempre comprei livros pela Amazon. Gosto que a entrega é rápida e, por ser uma empresa grande, tenho mais confiança.
Recentemente encontrei alguns animes que me deram vontade de ter mais coleções, mas não consegui encontrar disponível ou com preço bom na Amazon, como Monster, por exemplo (que tem volume a 100 reais).
Procuro recomendações de sites confiáveis, não faço questão de comprar a todo custo.
Lately I've found myself in many situations where I'm stuck between being able to be the first one to help someone and not interfering with the course of their life since they aren't my responsibility.
I'll cite a few examples:
1 - My friend comes from a poorly educated family and in general she has less privileges than I. What bothers me the most is that every time she gets money, she'll rather spend it on an expensive dress (I guess her wardrobe must be overwhelmed by now) than buy things she needs, like a mere mechanical pencil for writing.
I tried to tell her about it many times, warning that soon she'll get out of HS and, like me, will face harsh times if she doesn't learn how to spend her money correctly. However, her reaction was ignoring me for a few days until she told me that it is her choice to decide what she spends on. It seemed to me that she took it more as a direct hate against her buying dresses out of anything rather than her not buying what she needs.
2 - My nephew has worrisome eating habits; spends all of his free time watching "brain rot" videos on the TV; likes to play fighting with other kids but if he loses he'll either cry or be abusive, saying that it's not fair and they're cheating no matter what; is ill-mannered, and many other things.
My sister, his mum, along with his dad, have almost no free time to take care of him, due to their jobs. While his dad will leave their house for days, she has to work home when she's off her workplace, as well as be the only one to do housework. So I can't blame them, but every time I tried to be a good influence to the kid, she'd say I'm crossing boundaries and that's a parent's job only.
3 - My dad is quite old, enough to pass as my granddad. Lately I'm starting to notice signs that he is forgetting many trivial things and can't communicate properly. He also has a short temper, so when he believes he's right, he'll fight everyone, everywhere, no matter what, to prove his point. Last time I took him downtown, I had to stop by a health food store, cus I needed to buy some supplements. Then he comes after me and starts arguing with the attendant, saying that it's absurd to charge over 400 per kilo for a product that wasn't even weighed. No one understood what he wasn't trying to mean, so I tried to talk to him about it. He got even madder cus he believed I was challenging, not warning him.
Can't talk to my sisters about it cus me and dad live in a distant city from our relatives, so they'll believe I'm just exaggerating since I'm younger than them, even though our dad's mental health is getting worse and worse each day.
Some of my favourite ghibli movies are only yesterday, from up on poppy hill, the wind rises, and grave of the fireflies. I just re-watched all of them this week and I realised something they have in common that brings comfort like no other.
While other Ghibli movies focus on either fantasy or city life, these often feature a field, or the sea as a background, which makes comfort come not as a total alienation from reality, but as a nostalgic feeling, from when life didn't revolve around phones and our houses were but a place to rest, not to spend our free time in.
Just a silly reflection and cliché opinion of mine 🙂↕️🙂↕️
Saio do ensino médio esse ano, sem muita noção de como é a faculdade (já que na minha família o estudo não foi prioridade), e muito menos o trabalho. Penso em fazer direito e passar num concurso da área, pela estabilidade.
Porém, sempre gostei de ler livros técnicos, estudar, e fazer pesquisas por conta própria, e uma das áreas que mais me interessa é a psicologia. Gostaria de saber quais são as opções que eu teria, sabendo que não tenho o menor interesse na terapia. Fiz uma pesquisa rápida e vi no Google que aparentemente a pesquisa é só depois do mestrado/doutorado, mas caso eu não faça, posso fazer o curso sem me aprofundar na terapia?
Edit: Valeu pelo apoio! Decidi que a melhor opção pra mim é uma pós em Psicologia. Falando nisso, pra quem leu até aqui, o que eu deveria fazer para ter mais contato com a área até que não chegue lá? Tipo projetos e tals.. 🙃
Psychology books and articles have been my favourites to read. However, I'm terrified of ever being a therapist. Therapy is my least favourite subject.
I'll finish HS this year and I'm looking for a law degree so I can lead a stable life, but that's all, I'm not interested in deepening my studies in this area.
So I thought of going after a psychology degree after I graduate, but I fear it would be too focused on the therapy itself and less on the actual study of the human mind.