Sexual incompatibility after sexual attraction sets in?
So, like I do every week, I've been wanting to get back into the dating pool (the problem is I'm too busy/too at my parent's house right now to either go out without judgement or even get on a dating app) so I've been reevaluating where I fall in on the asexual chart. I think of myself as gray/demi.
But as I lay in bed, thinking about romantic scenarios and more, I did get to thinking this: If I am demisexual, let's say, and I meet this person, either on an app or from my friend group, and I love them and the sexual attraction starts to seep in after a while and we get to talking about sex and BOOM, we are incompatible as sexual partners. How do you deal with that?
Now, the obvious answer is TELL THEM ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE INTO BEFORE YOU DO IT and like, absolutely we should. But my thing is that I absolutey don't like talking about sex as it pertains to me in person, at least not with someone I don't really know. I have to know people before I'm attracted to them. But I feel uncomfortable talking about that as it pertains to myself.
That's not to say I don't know what I like or anything like that. But I just find it super embarrassing to talk about it. Part of that is my childhood growing up in a sex-negative environment and still being kind of embarrassed about sex. That's also not to say that we couldn't have sex before that attraction sets in
So how do you deal with this? Am I just thinking too much about this? Should I just they-up and be more upfront about it sooner?