u/Routine_Excitement57

Has anyone figured out their preference before experiencing it physically?

Has anyone strongly suspected they have a preference for women even though they haven't physically experienced that yet? I'm a late bloomer. I'm in my mid thirties and realized my attraction to women in twenties but never physically acted on it yet due living with family that isn't religious and not open minded and finishing education late and now helping a elderly relative. I date and had relationships with men and talked to women online dating. I've even video chatted a woman in another country for several weeks daily who was a lesbian online dating but never dated in person or kissed a woman.

But I have a strong suspicion I have a preference for women. Since I was a preteen when attractive woman, or back when a preteen or teen it would be an attractive girl also, walks into a room I've always found it more natural me to notice her than guys. I notice attractive guy but far less. Also I enjoy sex and closeness with the men I've been with but I've always felt closer to women, especially women I had crushes on and a close connection such as queer female friends from the past.

I'm working on getting my finances together to move and finally be free experience dating women with a freedom I've never been able to without worrying if my family ever find out my living situation turn into a nightmare.

So the question is has anyone ever had a strong suspicion of preferring women and later on found out they were right when had the chance to explore that physically before they explore that physically?

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u/Routine_Excitement57 — 11 hours ago