u/RomperElCiclo

This guy posted a full POV video running the 2026 Boston Marathon. I was able to find myself in his footage, which I thought was cool.

He started in Wave 2 Corral 2. His bib number is near the end of the video. You can compare your clock times to his in the BAA app and see if he ever passed you or you passed him. In my case I started after him, but finished before him. I figured out the timing mat where I passed him and watched that portion of the video to see me running.

May 6th, 2024 was day one. I have not looked at porn since then. I struggled with PMO for nearly 30 years prior to that and I tried to quit a thousand times with varying levels of success. Sometimes I would go a week or two, on rare occasion I could make it a full month. I used porn as a coping mechanism for boredom, sadness, relationship issues, failure, and sometimes even as a reward for success. I won't bore you with my full story, but I do want to list a few things I've learned and a few things that have lead to my current success.

• First, never give up. Even if you fail over and over, keep trying. You never know when you'll find lasting success. You'll never win if you give up and it only takes one lasting success to finally overcome.
• The first few days are the hardest. You will likely be just working off of pure will power. After a few weeks you'll become stronger. After a few months you'll start to actually change. I found that after six months I felt like I had confidence that this was going to be a permanent change.
• Realize now that urges will never fully go away. Even today at the two year mark I still get urges. But I'm not afraid of them any more. I can cope with other skills and I know I'm not going to fail. I try my best to avoid creating situations where urges are more likely to occur, but I can't 100% control that. I'm human and this is part of life.
• Learn what your triggers are, what situations create the most urges, where are you most susceptible to failing.
• Create a plan and practice it. When urges come you should have a predetermined plan on what you will do. For me it started simply with getting up and leaving the physical location I was in. Usually that was my bedroom. I would get up and leave to another part of the house or outside. It was best to go somewhere with other people around. Practice this before an urge comes. It was even helpful to say out loud what I was doing. I would just say, "Ok, I'm getting up and going to the kitchen now." Just saying it would help me commit. This is just one of many battle plans I have. This one is usually just the first line of defense and works most of the time. For lasting urges, I have to do more.
• Find new coping methods. Boredom, sadness, life, etc will continue. Figure out how you will handle it in a healthy way. As we all know, porn won't make it better. It is a temporary fix that leaves you worse off than you were before.
• Create new positive habits. Fill your life with good things. For me that has been endurance sports. I've always been an endurance athlete, but in the last few years I've really leaned on it as a healthy habit. In the last two years I've run four marathons and those keep my focus there and help keep me out of trouble. PMO really drains your energy, so it was motivating to not do it knowing how it effected my mentally, physically, and emotionally.

I'm so much happier now that I was before. It makes me wonder what took me so long, but what really matters is that I've made it this far. Live isn't necessarily easier, but it is so much better. I feel like a stronger person because I can overcome my weaknesses.