AITA for cutting my Stepmother off after my fathers passing?
AITA for cutting off my stepmother after my dad passed away?
I (41F) lost my dad about a month ago. It was not sudden, he fought cancer for almost two years, but honestly I’m still not over it. We never close, she would never allow us to have a relationship with him.
My stepmother (60F) has been in my life since I was 2. We were never close. She was extremely ab*****e. Emotionally, mentally, and physically. By the time I left home at 16 I had been through 11 broken bones.
After he passed, things got… weird. She started being nice.. sickly so. Then her true colors appeared all over again..... She started going through his belongings and either sold, donated, or threw away things without asking me or any of my siblings.
When I tried to talk to her about it, she told me that she was his wife and that everything belonged to her now, and that we needed to “move on.” That really hurt.
On top of that, she started making comments about how he never loved us and only THEIR kids mattered.
The final straw was when she told me I should stop referring to it as “my dad’s house” because “he’s gone, and it’s hers now.”
After that, I stopped reaching out. I blocked her a few days ago because every interaction just made me feel worse.
Some extended family members think I’m being too harsh and that she’s grieving too, and that I should try to repair the relationship because "life is just too short.." But I feel like she crossed too many lines and disrespected both me and my dad’s memory.
So… AITA for cutting her off?