u/RefinedBerrySalad

This has been in my head for a long time and maybe I’m overthinking this, but would it be cheap of me to invite my first date to my dad’s restaurant? I have another place in mind as well, if it is. But I really enjoy inviting people to my personal life and show them what goes on, so bringing a date there would be that invitation.

But I worry it may come across as avoiding commitment or proper planning. I genuinely think our food is great, all of my friends who’ve gone there love it, we’ve even won awards. This would be my version of putting someone on.

What do you guys and gals think?

I’ve been developing a story for a few years and it’s so expansive that I sometimes get lost explaining to friends or mutuals friends. Even though no one has taken issue with it and always love it, my pitch is commonly steered off course to subplots or subtle context and I’d like to be able to stay consistent on the timeline.

Wha is your method of pitching linearly and how did you gain that skill?

As I’m growing up, I feel more masculine and willing to be a provider along side my dad. I look up to him and see him as a role model. But I just have one gripe and it’s that he doesn’t shut down people trying to exploit him soon enough. Not to say he doesn’t shut it down at all, but I just don’t want to get to that point.

I try to provide the best I can because I truly enjoy it. I work in my dad’s cafe, pay for my friend’s food (not always), and I even helped a buddy move to an apartment down the street when asked at the last minute.

When I start putting myself out there and possibly go on dates, what is one of the best ways to show I provide without the lady seeing it as an opportunity to exploit me?

And a second question—how do I clock that she’s willing to reciprocate?