AITA for saying its rude of my best friend to take calls from her boyfriend while with her friends
Hello!
My best friend of nearly 10 years started dating someone about 2–3 months ago, and this is her first serious relationship. Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern when we hang out - either just the two of us or with a group of friends. Even when her boyfriend knows she’s out, he’ll call her, and she’ll end up talking to him for 20–30 minutes. She usually steps away to take the call since she doesn’t like talking on the phone in front of others.
It’s only happened a few times so far (around three that I can remember), but it feels like it might become a regular thing.
I brought it up to her and said that I personally find it a bit rude when someone takes a long phone call while spending time with others. I also mentioned that I think it’s a little inconsiderate on his part to call when he knows she’s out.
She told me that he calls her even when he’s out with his own friends, and she doesn’t see anything wrong with it. While she said she understands my perspective and will be more mindful, she still feels it’s just a difference in opinions rather than something inherently rude.
Update: After our conversation, she later apologized and said she talked to someone else about it and realized it could come across as rude. At the same time, I’ve also reflected on it and feel like I might have overstepped a bit. I don’t want to interfere in her relationship, especially since this is all new for her. I told her that as well and apologized for potentially overstepping.
AITA???
Another update!!: Thank you for all the comments. I’ve seen a lot of people saying I’m not in the wrong and describing him as clingy or her behavior as annoying, but I want to add some context.
While she initially said it was just a difference in perspective, she’s actually very self-aware and always takes my feelings into consideration. She’s the kind of person who will reflect and adjust if something she’s doing bothers me (and I try to do the same if something bothers her!). She’s a really good friend—my best friend—and she understands that sometimes I might notice things she doesn’t. I cant say much for him as I have not met him but besides this, he does seem like a really good/decent guy from what ive seen and what ive been told and he may just be clueless tbh.