My(29M) gf(28F) believes in a lopsided version of digital privacy. I don't know what to do.
I(29M) have been with my gf(28F) for around a year. Last October, she asked me to show her my WhatsApp. I readily accepted her request. She went through my chats. When I asked her to see her WhatsApp, she declined. She told me that she doesn't want to share her chats with her friends with me. I felt a little strange but I let that go.
Two months back, my ex messaged me and we had a short, cordial chat. This ex usually messages me once every year, and we separated 5 years back on amicable terms. I told this to my gf right away. While on a video call, she asked me to share my screen and show her my chats with her. I did that.
I don't remember it clearly, but one more time she asked me to share my WhatsApp with her. Again I didn't have any problems.
Today, while we were having a short date, I asked her to show me her WhatsApp. But she outrightly refused. She said that this violates her privacy. She asked me whether I believe that she is cheating on me. I told her that I don't think that's the case, but I called out her hypocrisy. I asked her whether the same principles dont apply to me. I called out the power imbalance in the relationship.
This has led to the breaking down of the trust I had on her. It feels like she has something to hide. And the problem is that even if she shares her WhatsApp with me now, it would be difficult for me to completely trust her again.
How can I tackle this situation?