Stuck in a toxic household with no money
Hello. I decided to write here because I feel very lonely and I need help and advice.
I have been living in isolation for a few months now, in a rural area, and I don’t know how to escape my toxic family.
At first, I couldn’t stay in my university city anymore and had to move back home, but my parents assured me that I would have a job nearby (because they had arranged something) and a car. None of that became reality.
They are very misogynistic and believe that my purpose in the house is to cook, clean, endure everything, stay quiet, and do whatever they say, just because they raised me and think I owe them everything.
Of course, my brother has all the freedom in the world, and nothing is expected from him. He gets praised even for the smallest things.
I don’t know how I will get out of this house because I don’t have friends I can stay with, so I need money. Honestly, I’m tired of hearing them and seeing them. I feel sick of what they have become, because they weren’t always like this… or maybe they were just pretending.
If I leave one dish unwashed, my mother starts telling me: “What will you do when you have a husband and kids?” Even though I’ve said multiple times that I don’t want a traditional family and I don’t want children (I also have a health issue), and honestly I don’t even like kids.
One time I mentioned that if I had a future husband, he would also do the dishes, and they started slamming chairs and told me I was exaggerating.
If anyone has gone through something similar, do you think they can ever change or accept boundaries? Do you think it’s worth keeping contact with them after I leave?