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TLDR:
Basically me and my ex have been split up for less than 2 months
I, D (22) and my ex G (21).
We share a beautiful 2 year old girl together
Our relationship was difficult from the very beginning. We were together for 3.5 years.
We were very different from each other
She came from a broken home dynamic: her mother is a deadbeat for abandoning her fist 2 children and had an aborting outside of her existing marriage. My exes’ biological father abandoned her when she was 3. My parents have been together since ‘97.
I always had issues with her mother. Me and her just never really got along
I got along with the stepfather since the very beginning. I am very thankful for what he’s done for me.
So the situation is
Before we broke up I found out my ex had cheated on me. She went out with some of her girlfriends. Me feeling bored at home and alone, decided to head out as we lived in the CBD.
I ran into my ex and her friends at the club. My ex saw me and immediately told me to go away. I felt hurt as I just came over to say hi to her.
I came back into the same club later that evening and I saw her talking to 2 different guys on different occasions. She told me she kissed one of them but she said it wasn’t good lol
I felt very angry so I went home.
At home our relationship was difficult
I felt like she was with me only for tolerance
I never felt like she truly loved me.
Whenever I wanted us to be intimate she rejected me at every opportunity
Whenever I wanted us to watch a movie, she rejected all my ideas and only wanted to watch what she suggested.
Yes I have made mistakes myself in the relationship as no one is perfect
But I could not bear living in a home and being in a relationship where I was not wanted or desired and loved.
Fast forward to now
And it’s been just under 2 months we broke up
She has already started dating someone else
He is also a single dad with 2 kids
She has introduced our daughter to his kids when they had dinner together and they weren’t even dating then, just getting to know each other
Recently she also told me she introduced our daughter to his family. Not his parents sine they have passed. His grandparents however.
I felt hurt as she did not mention anything not me prior and I felt somewhat betrayed.
As I feel communication is very important when there are important things going on in a child’s life.
I feel disrespected as a father due to the lack of communication on her side.
She told me she doesn’t need to tell me what she does with our daughter. I strongly disagree.
Overall i just feel so hurt and betrayed
I understand I wasn’t a perfect partner
But I just feel like she was with me for tolerance and she never truly loved me. And she is already with someone new less than 2 months
It’s been hard for me, as I just wish I’d erase her from my life completely but I understand I cannot do that since we share a child.
Overall my relationship with her was toxic and awful and really brought down my self esteem
I am back at the gym again trying to fix myself and move on so I can find someone who is good for my life
I just don’t understand how someone can move on so quickly
If it was me she’d be saying all kind of things to me and my parents
What do I do?
How can I move on without having the constant reminder in my head that she is with someone else already?
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Need Help