u/Prudent-Car9716

https://www.reddit.com/r/ZimbabweRelationships/s/oX86Vdfq3b

UPDATE: I posted here a while back looking for advice. Ndazama kuisa link of the previous post I hope you can open it. I broke up with him. He said I am overreacting for breaking up with him nekuti he loves me. Also, the reason why asina kundiudza was because aitya kuti ndinomuramba that’s his reason.

And then someone very close to me, my sister, said something that left me surprised. She said, “So what if he has another childIt’s not like you didn’t accept the other one.” Ndangoti true, but this has shown a character I think I will not like. Her reason is that he’s a nice, kind person and also someone who prays. Kwanzi ndizvo zvakakosha, munhu waunonamata naye, which I understand.

What do you guys think? Was I wrong for breaking up with someone who had hidden a child from me for 3 years? Mwana uyu was born two months tichangotanga kudanana.

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. Before we started dating, he told me he had two children, which I accepted and didn’t mind. Then in December, I found out he had another child that I didn’t know about. I couldn’t believe it at first, but I looked into it and it turned out to be true he has another child, born in the same year we started dating.

The issue for me is, why lie from the beginning. I think I would have understood him, especially because this happened before I was even in the picture. What I don’t understand is why he is being dismissive about it now like it’s nothing.

Also, when was he planning to tell me? I need advice on whether I am valid in feeling the way I feel, and whether I am wrong for wanting to leave. By the way, I’m a single woman handina mwana or kumboroorwa.