u/Proud_House4494

No seriously, it is intense.

He is the most amazing kid I’ve ever met and so smart and such a great little showman and so creative and can be impossibly charming and fun.

AND

He has such strong reactions and feelings and likes to push our buttons endlessly and always cries at the slightest boundary or rule because it’s either his way or the highway and if he decides on something it is almost impossible to talk sense into him and every morning is a huge struggle because he actually cares about what T-shirt to wear and what shoes (I thought I could still pick whatever for him but nooooooo)

I don’t know.. this Capricorn mom is (and her cap husband) are struggling.

(Also we have an 8.5 month old who is a Leo too hahaha)

TLDR: my 8.5 month old is high sleep needs and still on 3 naps. I don’t love the 9pm bedtime and wish we could do 2 naps with earlier bedtime but I’m scared of earlier snooze feed or morning wake up.

Little guy is a very decent sleeper. He has always been super easy with crib transfers and even managed to go to sleep all on his own a bunch of times. We haven’t formally trained yet. It ain’t broke so I haven’t tried to fix it (don’t hate me my first baby was nothing like this haha.)

Generally he self soothes back to sleep whenever he wakes up before 6am and I only feed him when he calls out after 6am. We usually manage to snooze after that feed till 7:30 or a bit later.

I’ve asked before on this sub but we never managed to extend his awake windows to the common 3/3/4 .. he gets super fussy and just starts sucking on his thumb and putting himself to sleep. So he is still on 3 naps.

His sleep more often than not will go like this:

• 7:30am wake up
• 9:45 m nap 1 (1.5 hours on average sometimes 2)
• 2:15 pm nap 2 (45 mins or so)
• 5:30pm nap 3 (40 mins, sometimes less)
• ~9pm bedtime

2.25/2.75/2.5/~3

(I hope I’m getting that right)

He genuinely sleeps pretty well but I’d LOVE for him to drop to two naps and I would be willing to work with him through a fussy extra 30 - 60 mins here and there HOWEVER my BIGGEST fear is that if we switch to two naps we’re going to have earlier days and earlier snooze feeds.

Have you seen earlier starts to the day once you did earlier bedtime ? Or an earlier demand for that snooze feed?

I had a really low sleep needs sleep fighter for my first kid and this second is such a good sleeper I’m so scared to change anything.

Worried I’m jinxing it as I type this haha