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I am an Indian and before jee I told my parents that I want to go abroad and pursue psychology. It genuinely interests me and also feels like a way to start fresh away from this environment.I also know my dad has financial responsibilities like loans and my sister’s marriage, so I told them not to spend more than around 12 lakh on my education(BTech ) and they were ready to spend a lot for a tier 2 college but I was alright with tier 3 too. My long-term goal is to settle abroad and get PR. My sibling may settle abroad soon as well, so I’ve been thinking more seriously about it. But I’m confused about the right path. I’ve heard that going abroad after BTech without work experience can make it harder to find jobs and that many people first work in India before going for a master’s. I have interest in psychology, media literacy, global politics, and also the healthcare side. I regret not taking PCB, but I still wonder if there’s any way I can move towards healthcare (especially something like skin/derma-related fields) through a degree in India and then study further abroad. I’ve also seen people take alternative routes like beauty/parlour courses and then move abroad, so I’m confused about what’s actually practical and stable especially in an unstable market where Indians are finding it hard to get job in IT field.

Ps: Also due to some family problem I really want to go abroad as soon as my bachelor's end from a tier 2-tier 3 so what's the best way to do that without sabotaging my chances of getting a job and what all should I prepare in my 4 years of degree to get a good University in a country with more exposure and job opportunities as I am ready to work hard as much as possible to secure my future abroad hence willing to do internships research work but just need guidance regarding it and if any of you is into genuine (even paid) consultancy or career guidance and have a lot of knowledge about it feel free to ping me🤍

I am an Indian and before jee I told my parents that I want to go abroad and pursue psychology. It genuinely interests me and also feels like a way to start fresh away from this environment.I also know my dad has financial responsibilities like loans and my sister’s marriage, so I told them not to spend more than around 12 lakh on my education(BTech ) and they were ready to spend a lot for a tier 2 college but I was alright with tier 3 too. Even after trying to be mindful of this, I was called an outcast and blamed for being influenced, which hurt because I have always tried to reduce the burden, not increase it. My long-term goal is to settle abroad and get PR. My sibling may settle abroad soon as well, so I’ve been thinking more seriously about it. But I’m confused about the right path. I’ve heard that going abroad after BTech without work experience can make it harder to find jobs and that many people first work in India before going for a master’s. I have interest in psychology, media literacy, global politics, and also the healthcare side. I regret not taking PCB, but I still wonder if there’s any way I can move towards healthcare (especially something like skin/derma-related fields) through a degree in India and then study further abroad. I’ve also seen people take alternative routes like beauty/parlour courses and then move abroad, so I’m confused about what’s actually practical and stable especially in an unstable market where Indians are finding it hard to get job in IT field.

ps: Also due to some family problem I really want to go abroad as soon as my bachelor's end from a tier 2-tier 3 so what's the best way to do that without sabotaging my chances of getting a job and what all should I prepare in my 4 years of degree to get a good University in a country with more exposure and job opportunities as I am ready to work hard as much as possible to secure my future abroad hence willing to do internships research work but just need guidance regarding it and if any of you is into genuine (even paid) consultancy or career guidance and have a lot of knowledge about it feel free to ping me🤍

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I am an Indian and before jee I told my parents that I want to go abroad and pursue psychology. It genuinely interests me and also feels like a way to start fresh away from this environment.I also know my dad has financial responsibilities like loans and my sister’s marriage, so I told them not to spend more than around 12 lakh on my education(BTech ) and they were ready to spend a lot for a tier 2 college but I was alright with tier 3 too. Even after trying to be mindful of this, I was called an outcast and blamed for being influenced, which hurt because I have always tried to reduce the burden, not increase it. My long-term goal is to settle abroad and get PR. My sibling may settle abroad soon as well, so I’ve been thinking more seriously about it. But I’m confused about the right path. I’ve heard that going abroad after BTech without work experience can make it harder to find jobs and that many people first work in India before going for a master’s. I have interest in psychology, media literacy, global politics, and also the healthcare side. I regret not taking PCB, but I still wonder if there’s any way I can move towards healthcare (especially something like skin/derma-related fields) through a degree in India and then study further abroad. I’ve also seen people take alternative routes like beauty/parlour courses and then move abroad, so I’m confused about what’s actually practical and stable especially in an unstable market where Indians are finding it hard to get job in IT field.

Before JEE, I told my parents that I want to go abroad and pursue psychology. It genuinely interests me and also feels like a way to start fresh away from this environment.I also know my dad has financial responsibilities like loans and my sister’s marriage, so I told them not to spend more than around 12 lakh on my education(BTech ) and they were ready to spend a lot for a tier 2 college but I was alright with tier 3 too s9 that they can save the money for my master's and long term goal is to settle abroad and get PR. My sibling may settle abroad soon as well, so I’ve been thinking more seriously about it. But I’m confused about the right path. I’ve heard that going abroad after BTech without work experience can make it harder to find jobs and that many people first work in India before going for a master’s. I have interest in psychology, media literacy, global politics, and also the healthcare side. I regret not taking PCB, but I still wonder if there’s any way I can move towards healthcare (especially something like skin/derma-related fields) through a degree in India and then study further abroad. I’ve also seen people take alternative routes like beauty/parlour courses and then move abroad, so I’m confused about what’s actually practical and stable especially in an unstable market where Indians are finding it hard to get job abroad and what path and steps should I follow moving forward

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Writing it on a behalf of a friend who had low karma on reddit so the sub wasn't taking her request and i didn't know how to advice her in such situation. Ps: PLS READ TILL END AND BE KIND IN THE COMMENTS🤍)

Hi, I’m in 12th (PCM) and I really need some honest advice.

When I was in 8th (around 12), I found out my mom was emotionally involved with another man. I noticed things first, then went through her phone and even had to collect screenshots to convince my elder sister because she didn’t believe me initially. When she finally saw it, she broke down, but I remember feeling mostly numb.

Even after we knew, my mom didn’t stop. About a year later, my dad found out too, but nothing really changed. My mom openly said she wouldn’t stop talking to him, and my dad chose to stay. Since then, it has just been an unspoken reality at home.

As I grew older, my mom started sharing everything with me. She would tell me why she talks to him, how my dad doesn’t understand her, and how she got married too young. At one point I even tried to understand and support her, but over time I started feeling a lot of resentment.

She would often get emotionally affected by that man and create tension at home. She used my phone to contact or check on him even when I was uncomfortable. Whenever I tried to set boundaries, she would cry or guilt-trip me until I gave in. If I questioned anything, it would turn into emotional chaos and I would end up consoling her. I feel like I became her emotional support system instead of her daughter.

My elder sibling, who is years older and lives in another city, knows everything but mostly stays neutral. I sometimes wish she would step in more, but she doesn’t really get involved.

Academically, I used to be very good (95%+ in 10th), but in 12th my mental health declined a lot. I lost focus and motivation, became a people pleaser, and started depending more on friends for emotional support.

Recently, things got worse when I found out my mom sends money to that man and even goes to meet him. She also bought a separate phone to stay in contact with him after I stopped letting her use mine. This affected me a lot and I started isolating myself and lost interest in studies.

Before JEE, I told my parents that I want to go abroad and pursue psychology. It genuinely interests me and also feels like a way to start fresh away from this environment.I also know my dad has financial responsibilities like loans and my sister’s marriage, so I told them not to spend more than around 12 lakh on my education(BTech ) and they were ready to spend a lot for a tier 2 college but I was alright with tier 3 too.

Even after trying to be mindful of this, I was called an outcast and blamed for being influenced, which hurt because I have always tried to reduce the burden, not increase it.

My long-term goal is to settle abroad and get PR. My sibling may settle abroad soon as well, so I’ve been thinking more seriously about it. But I’m confused about the right path. I’ve heard that going abroad after BTech without work experience can make it harder to find jobs and that many people first work in India before going for a master’s. I have interest in psychology, media literacy, global politics, and also the healthcare side. I regret not taking PCB, but I still wonder if there’s any way I can move towards healthcare (especially something like skin/derma-related fields) through a degree in India and then study further abroad. I’ve also seen people take alternative routes like beauty/parlour courses and then move abroad, so I’m confused about what’s actually practical and stable especially in an unstable market where Indians are finding it hard to get job in IT field.

Right now I feel emotionally drained, confused, and disconnected from my parents. I still love them, which is what makes everything even more complicated, and sometimes I wonder if I’m a bad child for feeling this way.

I really need advice on whether I am wrong for feeling this resentment and how to deal with this situation better. I also want guidance on what would be the most practical and realistic way for me to eventually move abroad and build a stable career.

TL;DR: Found out about my mom’s affair at 12 and ended up becoming her emotional support system. It affected my mental health, studies, and relationships. Now I feel drained and want to move abroad for a fresh start but feel misunderstood. Need advice on both my situation and future plans. Also usage of chatgpt was done to phrase the statements better