AITA for asking my sister and brother-in-law to take care of their dog or remove it from my elderly mother’s property?
My BIL got my sister a dog before they had kids. They didn’t potty train him very well and he has accidents inside the home. He also barks at everything and even sometimes snaps. The dog is about 10 years old now. And they now have 2 kids. They brought their dog with them when they moved in with my mom so they could save money. They just moved out to their own apartment. My mom has asked them multiple times to take their dog with them and they refused. The dog is stressing her out. They haven’t given it shots in several years and refuse to take it to the vet because “they barely have money for their kids”. My mom, who lives just on social security, takes really good care of her dog. I’ve been seeing how the dog stresses my mom out. She’s cleaning his mess several times a day and she herself is on a walker. She is a fall risk and it is very possible with her eyesight she can slip and fall if she doesn’t see the pee. Plus it’s really not fair to the dog. The poor thing has ear mites and a spot on his leg he keeps chewing on. I’d gladly loan them the money to get him care (I live out of state or I’d take care of it). I am really shocked my sister is doing/allowing this. I told her she needed to take better care of her dog the last time I was in town (3.5 months ago) and she dismissed me. About 6 days ago, I texted my BIL (the decision maker of the two) they needed to address the dog. I said they needed to decide between 1 of 3 options. 1. Take the dog to their house and figure out the logistics like other dog owning families do, 2. Sign and abide by terms and conditions my mom set for the dog to remain there for the sake of her grandson. (Terms were basic healthcare and preventative flea meds provided for the dog, replacement of fence pickets to keep the dog contained when it’s out in her backyard, help 2-3x a wk to mop her floor (she spot cleans as she can), and pay for his food). 3. They put him down if they’re unwilling to care for him. The dog has dementia and paces because he doesn’t know what to do. Taking him to a shelter would be extra cruel because he’d be even more scared. The dog doesn’t deserve that. I gave them a deadline to make a choice. Long story long. They refused my mom’s terms and conditions and they refused to take their dog. I am letting them know they have 7 days to remove the dog from my mom’s property or I will call animal control and report that they abandoned their dog on my elderly moms property which is a Class A misdemeanor and up to 4,000 fine where my mom lives. AITA for making them take care of their dog? (These are adults nearing the age of 40. In 5 years they’ve gone on like 3 cruises. They also eat out multiple times a week).