u/Potential_Brush2021

so i 20 F have a boyfriend 18 M, we’ve been together for like 1.2 years now. recently we celebrated valentine’s day, and this time i literally told him EXACTLY what to get me, like down to the details and even the budget.

the reason is because on my birthday he honestly disappointed me a lot with the gifts. i had dropped hints before but yeah… it just wasn’t it. so i didn’t want a repeat of that.

for context, his birthday comes before valentine’s. he told me what he wanted and i got him that. on my birthday he spent around 1.5k, so i told him i’d match that for his gifts because on his birthday i had actually spent almost double on him.

then he was like “can we just combine both budgets and you don’t get me anything for valentine’s, i don’t mind.” but i still didn’t feel right doing nothing, so for his birthday i got him multiple things — one main expensive gift, a card, and an expensive ass chocolate.

so yeah i did put in effort.

for valentine’s, i just wanted things to go the way i had planned, especially because i had clearly communicated it this time. also, and i know this sounds kinda shitty, but my friends are also in relationships and their boyfriends give them really nice gifts, and i didn’t want to feel… idk, left out or disappointed again.

i wanna know if this is normal or not ?

TL;DR:

i (18F) told my bf (19M) exactly what to get me for valentine’s because he disappointed me on my birthday, but even after clear communication and me putting in a lot of effort for his gifts, i still feel kinda let down and lowkey comparing it to what my friends got.

so i 20 F have a boyfriend 18 M, we’ve been together for like 1.2 years now. recently we celebrated valentine’s day, and this time i literally told him EXACTLY what to get me, like down to the details and even the budget.

the reason is because on my birthday he honestly disappointed me a lot with the gifts. i had dropped hints before but yeah… it just wasn’t it. so i didn’t want a repeat of that.

for context, his birthday comes before valentine’s. he told me what he wanted and i got him that. on my birthday he spent around 1.5k, so i told him i’d match that for his gifts because on his birthday i had actually spent almost double on him.

then he was like “can we just combine both budgets and you don’t get me anything for valentine’s, i don’t mind.” but i still didn’t feel right doing nothing, so for his birthday i got him multiple things — one main expensive gift, a card, and an expensive ass chocolate.

so yeah i did put in effort.

for valentine’s, i just wanted things to go the way i had planned, especially because i had clearly communicated it this time. also, and i know this sounds kinda shitty, but my friends are also in relationships and their boyfriends give them really nice gifts, and i didn’t want to feel… idk, left out or disappointed again.

i wanna know if this is normal or not ?

TL;DR:

i (18F) told my bf (19M) exactly what to get me for valentine’s because he disappointed me on my birthday, but even after clear communication and me putting in a lot of effort for his gifts, i still feel kinda let down and lowkey comparing it to what my friends got.