Seeking advice about tricky situation
My husband, who has always had an uncomfortable contentious relationship with his father recently caught his father having an affair through seeing a suspicious text message. My mother-in-law is an elderly Chinese woman who is completely subservient and he has admitted to cheating on her with a younger, more glamorous Asian woman for to over 10 years, as well as giving her upwards of 100 thousand dollars of their retirement savings for sex. over the course of their 30 year marriage my father-in-law has managed to isolate my mother-in-law from her entire family, as he has been unkind and judgmental of all four of her siblings families, and they consider him to be a creep and a narcissist. My husband wants nothing to do with his father as he feels that this is his last straw with him. However, my mother-in-law has chosen to forgive him, and is trying to force my husband into forgiving his father as well. I am torn because if we cut off my father-in-law, it will essentially make it impossible for my mother-in-law to have a relationship with our two young kids as my father-in-law does not let her drive and he thinks it’s unfair for her to see the grandkids and not him. Part of me thinks my husband should let it go in order to keep the peace with his mom, but part of me understands that he is too hurt and too disgusted. Does anyone have any advice?