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So I contacted my health visitor because for almost a year now my little girl has been constantly dribbling in large amounts. She has just turned 2, and whilst I initially thought it was because of teething, I recently realised there is never a break. She still has to wear bibs and have them changed multiple times a day, and still gets a constantly sore chin and neck. The reason I contacted my HV is because I saw online that it normally resolved by 2. The HV asked some questions about whether she has dummies or bottles which she doesn't and then said it could be a health condition so I should take her to see a GP. I feel a bit daft to be honest, should I be worried? Anyone else's toddler like this?

I'm pregnant with baby no.2, we were in a really good financial position prior to starting a family but we burned through chunk of our savings so that I could take the year off with my first. She is now 2, we wanted to have them close together so that they're close in age but also so that we can start building our financial security back up. I went back part-time, knowing that if we struggled I can always go back full time (there are always vacancies in my field). Although our savings have been eaten up a fair bit, it's mostly because we are moving house and having an expensive time of it rather than we are going over our income every month. We just about break even or have a little left over, so we aren't saving much at the moment but we are managing.

With maternity leave looming, we are getting ready to use a lot of our savings again. I won't be able to take the year due to being part-time and will have to be a lot smarter with how I use my annual leave and KIT days. I also have the option of going back one or 2 days per week as well which I thought I would do about 9 months if we can afford it.

Anyway, we aren't going to be left with much "oh crap" money and I'm a bit worried. I'm planning on going through our direct debits and seeing what subscriptions we can cut and I've been picking up out of hours shifts (paid at £30 per shift plus overtime for emergencies) but this isn't a stable income as if I don't get any calls, I don't get above the £30.

I just wanted to see what kind of position people were in at my time in life, good or bad!

I have posted here before about the pain of breastfeeding while pregnant. My toddler just turned 2 and I'm 22 weeks. At the begining the pain was so severe that I night-weaned her, I let her cry with dad so that I could do this because the pain was so bad. Now we are down to once or twice per day, just for naps and bed time. It's been fine up until the past couple of weeks - well still painful but a lot less than it was. But she's bit me a couple of times recently and I feel like even with the small amount of nursing sessions I'm still really sore. She has actually started to fall asleep at night without it, which is unheard of. This in itself is making me so sad. I know that she's old enough to not need it and she's not really getting any milk anyway if anything - I seemed to dry up completely around 12 weeks.

And I know that tandem feeding isn't easy, but I did think that it would be quite healing for me. We had such a difficult journey to get where we are - she had a tongue tie that was missed, quite severe jaundice, she ended up getting used to the flow of bottles and not feeding well on my breasts and it took us almost 6 months of triple-feeding then exclusively pumping to get a decent latch. I had to supplement with formula through a lot of this to take the pressure off as I was never a high producer. We managed to drop to one bottle a day when she was 6 months and I was so proud. Happy to go for as long as she wanted, then bam - pregnant. It wasn't an accident however it took us 11 months to conceive my daughter so I wasn't to know I'd get pregnant after literally one try.

I'm just really emotional and I know hormones won't help. I miss that bond and I'm really heartbroken. How can I move past this? Please be kind as I'm really fragile.