AIO for being like this
So I have this coworker and since day one he’s been very very kind to me. He was always helping me, checking in on me, just being really nice overall. At first I thought he was just a good person and I appreciated it.
Out of nowhere he began telling me “I love you.”
Like wtf … The first time I didn’t know how to react so I kind of laughed it off and didn’t say anything serious. I thought maybe it was a joke or he didn’t mean it like that.
But he kept saying it, Every time.
Now it’s gotten really uncomfortable. I’ve never said yes or no, I just kind of freeze or avoid reacting because I don’t want to make things awkward at work. But it already feels awkward. I don’t see him that way at all, he’s just a coworker to me.
Also, there’s about a 20 year age gap between us, which honestly makes it even more uncomfortable for me.
And the thing is… at the beginning I kind of saw him like a dad figure at work. My dad passed away 5 years ago, and I think that’s why I felt safe around him at first. So the way things changed makes it feel even worse, like something that was supposed to feel safe now just feels wrong.
Even though he’s still nice, the constant “I love you” makes me feel pressured and uneasy. I feel tense being around him and I don’t know how to act anymore.
Part of me wonders if I’m overreacting because he’s not being mean or aggressive. But at the same time, it doesn’t feel normal for someone to say that every day when I clearly don’t respond.
It’s starting to make me uncomfortable going to work.
