Setting boundaries with jokes
I (38F) am dealing with working on loving myself so that I can fully accept the love from others including friends, family and my partner (36M).
I’m going preface this with my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and he’s awesome and loving and caring and that’s why I want to be able to be better about loving myself so that I can truly accept his love and trust it. And he’s done so much to help that.
However I read that I need to set healthy boundaries. From my past relationships and even myself I am constantly worried my partner whether it was him or someone else is going to just end up cheating on me because I’m not worth loving and I’m not enough to keep someone around. My partner doesn’t do anything to exacerbate this, he’s great and I don’t want to push him away with my anxieties.
However we both are very jokie and have great senses of humor and love to just joke around and stuff. One of way of joking harmlessly and it’s hard to word this to make sense but being with other people. And it’ll be dumb like we see these Asian women lives on TikTok who are clearly trying to get a man and we joke about it and then he’ll be like “I’m sorry babe I’m just going to have to go over there and be her man” so it’s really unserious and nothing to worry about but like because of MY insecurities it’s just not funny. I want to tell him that I’m not coming from an upset position and it’s me a thing but I just don’t find it funny because it hits a tender spot but idk if I’m just being overly sensitive.