Is betterhelp representative of actual therapy?
I’ve been doing better help for the past couple weeks and I haven’t had the best experience, and it’s been making me question whether therapy is even worth it.
Basically I’ve been seeking therapy due to a combination of being endlessly tired for no reason (good results on bloodwork, healthy weight etc), low self worth, social anxiety, and lifelong procrastination/executive functioning issues and the stress that comes with these. The main thing that caused this was me leaving mid shift due to being overwhelmed and tired. I’ve been having suicidal ideations for months leading up to this and I was pushed to use betterhelp from my mom despite their reputation.
The therapist I matched with after explaining my issues/filling out the questionnaire wasn’t very helpful. During our sessions he explained cbt and wanted me to implement thought reframing to help with negative self talk which helped, other than that his answers to my problems were already self evident and known to me. I already know that me insecurities are irrational, I already know that people don’t automatically hate me and that I can make friends, etc.
He would avoid ever giving me advice or anything for my procrastination at all either, he said that I just lack “strength of character” and that he didn’t sense any executive dysfunction from me, and that I just need to prioritize myself and my needs. He just wasn’t helpful, so I don’t know what to do at this point.
Whenever I talked I had to watch myself to not say anything in absolutes because if I did he would literally throw up his arms and say to reframe it (I suck at blank -> I suck at blank right now but I can improve etc), it’s tiring not being able to actually say what I want to say. At our last session I mentioned my parents being christian and them trying to get me to go to church, and he tried to get me to believe in god (I checked prefer athiest in the betterhelp settings)
Do all therapists throw cbt at you with canned “no actually your problem isn’t real and you can think it away” solutions? If I can get all of these surface level advice from google searching my problems then what’s the point of spending 90 dollars and one hour of my day to discuss them with someone who can’t help.