How do i make a man respect me?
Me and my boyfriend have been on and off since september, just for context he wasnt in a state to love anyone around him properly, and because i had no self respect i couldn't leave so i ended up enduring a lot of disrespect and i resent him a lot for it, so its honestly my own fault i didnt leave sooner. I have left him multiple times but obviously he ended up coming back and begging. I finally broke up with him in beginning of march, because i needed to be away. That was really a wake up call for him. and since then we've decided to keep in touch only once a month until hes finally ready to treat everyone around him better including himself.
I know i cant make a man magically fall inlove or respect me, but is there anything i can do during no contact for him to respect me and treat me the way i deserve? i have no doubt that he doesnt love me, its just the way he shows it and that his mental health gets in the way. Hes the kind of person who cant show up for anyone if he isnt showing up for himself, but he has changed a lot since then I see he's prioritizing himself more but that doesnt mean he'll prioritize me either.
We've checked up on eachother today, and we wont be speaking for the next month. i would really appreciate any advice on what to do with my life, how to get over the resentment and how to actually decide if this is what i want or not. I really want this to work. Im trying to think positively about this.