parents still won’t let me go out
Hi! Im 21F, still living with my parents and in college and my main problem is the fact that my parents (mostly my dad) will not let me go out unless he knows the full itinerary. Like where i’ll be, who I’m with. I can’t even just leave the house randomly and hang out with my friends, they have to know a day ahead. They won’t let me be independent, they always want to keep me close to them and never let me have my own life. I’ve argued with them that I’m 21 and i have my own life but he would always say I don’t care about the family and that I’m throwing our relationship away?
I feel so constricted because I want to be able to go out freely without them breathing down my neck on where i’ll be, who i’m with, what time i gotta be home. I feel so jealous of my friends who can just go out anytime they want. What makes it worse is that they won’t let me go out with my bf, my dad says oh you guys have to hang out in the house, u cant see him outside and no dates are allowed. His reasoning behind all of this is that I live in his house so i go by his rules, he’ll kick me out if I don’t.
I recently just got a job btw, which he was so against cs he doesnt want me to work. And now all of a sudden he goes, oh you’ll pay ur car payments, ur insurance and all of this but won’t let me work more than a few days a week cs he wants me to focus on school?
Idk i have no freedom and I always have to sneak around.