I swear I can’t do anything without him having plans…
I’m throwing my sister a baby shower his weekend. We’ve (obviously) had this date picked for literal months. I confirmed with my suspected narc husband that he could take care of our two kids (4 and 1) Friday evening and practically all day Saturday.
Well of course, Monday (5 days prior to the event) he tells me he has to work Friday evening and Saturday morning. Now mind you… my husband is a college basketball coach. It’s April. He is not in busy season. He has the ability to say no to both events… neither are required. One is a recruit coming unannounced and the other is an accepted students day, which he is not required to attend and has no real reason to be there. None of the incoming basketball student signed up for a meeting with him, he just wants to say hi. 🫠
I’m so frustrated. I swear every single time I have something planned, he has to have something planned that throws off my premade plans. It literally never fails. We’re in a good spot right now and I know pointing out how this makes me feel will send him spiraling. He’s already made a dozen passive aggressive comments about how this weekend is “all about you (me) and your plans”. But now it isn’t because I have to switch gears to work around your schedule????
Am I crazy for being frustrated over this? I feel like I shouldn’t feel crazy, but I do? I know that’s a narc abuse thing but dang… it’s hard to see clearly you’re in the thick of it.