u/Past-Bicycle5959

As the title says really.

I had the best burger of my life from Danny's Burgers in Bristol a month ago and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. I need a burger fix.

I tried Reef and Beef yesterday. It was good, but it wasn't anything outstanding.

Yes, I've been to Bookoo's in both Falmouth and Helston.

Will consider other towns easily accessible from PZ by train if they're promised to be mouthwateringly beefy, melty, cheesy, soft bun, not spicy, no fatty bacon, preferably customisable.

Help a girl out on her burger mission pls.

Edit: just to clarify, I don't mind good bacon on a burger, but I can't stand when a place doesn't cook it properly and it just overpowers the whole burger with the taste of pig, which is what happened to me when I got the Peppercorn bacon burger in Helston Bookoo's

I have one set of children born 11 months apart - born in 2020 and 2021. I was in a highly abusive relationship when I had these children, which ended in 2023, although the post separation abuse is still ongoing.

I thoroughly love these children and I did everything I could to make sure every day that their individual needs were met. However, it was hard work, I was running on empty, the younger child was extremely high demand and I felt a lot of guilt for having to divide my attention away from the first born. I have said for a long time that I regretted having them so close together as it was so hard on me and felt unfair on them at times too.

Due to the nature of the relationship with the father, not only did I have no help from him, but I was under constant stress and fear. I was also isolated from all my friends, family, was not allowed my car and lived in the middle of nowhere - all factors that just made it so much more difficult than it necessarily needed to be.

This time, I have a lovely 12 week old who is just angelic, much like the first born of my last two. I am not in a relationship with the father but we co-parent really well together. He is financially supportive as well as very hands on with the baby. This is his first baby so not so much comes naturally to him but he does listen when I say something needs to be done differently. When he works, he works away for several days at a time but is then around several days at a time too.

I am now very unexpectedly pregnant again (around 5 weeks) and just in utter turmoil over it. I know my situation it different, I have a small support network of friends now, and I don't live in constant stress and fear of my ex, although he does still have an impact. I also live in a central location and have transport.

But I am worried that the new baby will have an impact on how well I will be able to parent my current baby, given my experience before. I would like to think that because this foetus is not being fed cortisol 24/7 that it may not be quite as an unhappy child as the second child of the previous pair, but this is obviously not a guarantee - it may still be another high demands child.

The thought of termination devastates me but I feel this is a war between my logical brain and my emotional brain. I managed before but it was hard, so I'm just wondering about other people's experiences, or any potential tips for managing another pair of children at ages where they are completely dependent on you, but with completely different needs.

Balancing self care, toddler care, newborn care, meals, activities, mismatched naps, sleep disruption etc.

Trying to think of practical tips like maybe baby wearing, breast v bottle, enlisting help?

I found with my first pair, it didn't get easier until the youngest was about 2.5/3.

Just any shared experiences or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

The ages of my children are 5, 6, and 3 months.