How to deal with someone who is downright nasty in the meetings ?
Eight years in the tech industry and I still don’t know how to deal with men talking down to someone in front of the entire team to make that person feel bad.
I always get into trouble for standing up for myself. I was thrown out of a project by the lead because of a heated argument I got into over his condescending behavior, and I got a reputation for being a hotheaded person. So I decided that next time someone misbehaves, I’ll just ignore it or leave the team.
Going to HR is useless. Telling your manager is useless, because if they think the lead is important to have on the team, obviously they won’t care about you.
I felt bad. I did escalate the way he spoke and misbehaved with me, but nothing happened.
I don’t know. It still hurts. I tried to move on, and yes, I’m on a new team now and the people around me are good and nice, but I just don’t know.