Nearly 4 year old still not getting it
Hello everyone
My partner and I have been trying to potty train our little one for over a year now.
Started her at 2 quickly realised it was two early and returned a few months before her 3rd birthday.
Initially didn't get pee or poos at all. Lots of accidents and lots of tears from her. Then we got some progress especially pees. Few accidents but was consistently going. Poos have always been challenging, she was holding and then doing big ones ( which were painful). Then she was going more consistently with tons of bribery and encouragement.
More recently things have moved in the other direction. Lots of pee accidents and she is getting really stressed about it. Smearing her underwear constantly ( 5 changes today alone) and again getting really stressed. She knows it shouldn't be happening but it's like she isn't picking up on her body responses. We are doing are best to not make a big deal out of the accidents (although im sure she does pick up on our fruatrations at times) Otherwise a very well developed nearly 4 year old but this has been so hard.
My question is when did you reach out for help? We are really resistant to the idea of medicalising this but are mindful that she will be going to nursery in September and things aren't improving. We're worried trips to doctors and tests might make her more fearful and anxious about this.