Dead bedroom vs. Cake eater
I recently started talking to someone. They are funny, smart, and attractive. Basically, I really liked them. However, they told me they are having sex regularly with their spouse. I couldn't seem to get over this and decided to end things before it progressed into a world of pain for me. I'm not expecting to find someone who isn't having sex with the SO completely, but I am i'm a dead bedroom, no sex, no intimacy. I think I really struggled with the potential imbalance of what a relationship like that would be like. I would be relaying on them for all my sexual needs, whilst they would only rely on me partially.
I guess I am just trying to understand my feelings and the situation as a whole. It's been hard to find someone I've clicked with, but when I've found that person, I've just let them go because of.... insecurities, perhaps.