u/Owarida_zo

Let's say you've just gotten engaged, but both of you live with parents.

For the brothers: Would you rather have your own place/apartment before the nikah and have your future wife move in with you? Or would you rather look for a place together after the nikah?

For the sisters: Would you rather your future husband have his place first before proceeding with the nikah? Or would you rather look for a place together after the nikah?

Before yall come at me, I know that sisters are more than capable of having their own place too and have their husbands move in with them. I understand your power 🙏. I'm just speaking from majority of cases.

As a man in his very early 20s, I always thought you must have...

• your own place

• a few £1000s in savings

• your own car

• a stable job

• a decent physique (by fit, I mean not bein obese/anorexic lol)

• good looks + character.

...before even thinking about marriage. Alhamdulilaah I've been blessed with everything on my mini list except for having my own place and car (insurance is ridiculous 😭)

However, my bro and I were discussing this earlier and he said that I was being a little unrealistic for someone my age.

He added that our older cousin had way less than what I have now when he got married, and now Alhamdulilaah he's been blessed with 3 kids and a happy marriage.

I still believe that every man must at least meet/be close to these pre-requisites before making a move, but I gotta admit, he did have me thinking there for a bit.

I wanna hear yall's perspective.