My grandfather's house
I'm not necessarily looking for advice...just need a place to vent.
My grandfather had a house custom-built for his wife back in the 1970s, she passed away in 1982 and he passed away in 2006. My father and his wife moved in afterwards and he passed in 2022, leaving the house to his widow. She is not in the best of health and in two months from now she will no longer have enough money to pay the mortgage.
I spoke with my attorneys about the situation and they advised me that I should not spend any of my money on that house for any reason, unless she adds my name to the deed and/or adds me to her will and has that will notarized, because if she passes and the house is not in my name, it can go to probate and I can potentially lose everything. There is a way for me to get the property after her death, but it's a major headache that can very easily be avoided.
As I mentioned, she only has two months of funds remaining. I hate having to constantly pester her about it, but her time is running out - in more ways than one - and I'm at my wits end with that woman. Every time I ask her if she has made any progress with the deed situation, she breaks out the alligator tears and whines about having to think about it and about having to call to ask about it because "people treat her like she's stupid" and she doesn't want to deal with them.
She also refuses to go to a nursing home/hospice facility, which I honestly can't say I blame her; around here, those places are horrible.
I still drive out there twice a week, against my attorneys' advice, to take care of the landscaping, help with chores, take care of the cats, and make house repairs when necessary.
I have offered to help her on two separate occasions, but she always says, "no, I'll do it.", while she does nothing but sit in her recliner all day, watching Ancient Aliens and StarTrek reruns. I work 68 hours per week and she lives 45 minutes away from me, so I don't have the time nor the patience to babysit her. If I didn't shave my head, I'd be ripping my hair out. I don't know what else to do at this point, except scream into the void.