I need opinions..
I've been in a 4 year relationship and have a 2.5 year old child with this man. He is wonderful around the house, very helpful with my son, cleaning and goes out of his way to help family and friends. Goes thrifting with me. Pays our bills since I've been having financial troubles as of late.
here's my "dillema"
When we argue, which isn't all the time, most of the time, we're fine, he becomes evil? he calls me lazy, stupid, ugly, useless etc. I know this sounds insane. The other day he put me in a headlock to try and grab my phone from me, he has punched me in the leg, kicked me in the ribs. He accepted a friend request online from a girl he used to have relations with much before we ever got together, he did end up deleting and blocking her but initially had lied about ever being intimate with her. He raises his fists and intimidates me when I upset him by saying something. He picks on my sense of humor and hates when I'm laughing while I text my bestfriend. He gets genuinely mad/annoyed. Critiques how I do the dishes, critiques meals I make, critiques how and what I feed our son.
okay, reading this back to myself it sounds actually crazy but I'm just so confused by how things are good 90% of the time but then we argue and it's like hells gates have opened.
I have contacted a woman's violence shelter and am in the process of getting housing for my son and I.
am I being selfish? am I really considered "being abused?" I feel like I'm over-reacting and taking spaces for housing and resources for others who have it much worse.
I am going through so much mentally, so I ask please that you are not too harsh on me... I feel very confused and, honestly, a bit naive and stupid...thank you so much for any advice.