I'd like your opinion on something I suspect to be a narcissistic-fueled mindset and behavior.
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I know of a couple, which are my neighbors. The girlfriend has described the situation to me in great details.
The guy has convinced her that he has "Dissociatice Identy Disorder" and has Alters.
His alters all have cool names and quirks. A pirate, a robot, a womanizer, a kid, a diva and so on...
He claims to have no control over them and no memory of what happened when they are in control.
In a pretty convenient way, one of his alters, a womanizer, has sex with other women. His girlfriend forgives him because "it's not him, he is faithful, it's his alter which he doesn't control, if anything he is a victim of it!"
Also pretty convenient, he has an alter which represents Anger, it's the agressive alter which comes out to slander her, break stuff in the room, then the "true" personality switches back and asks what happened.
So she can't blame him since it was an Alter.
The girlfriend has abandonment issues, she clings to him.
The guy is rather charismatic, always try to dressvery well, have nice hair and style, and is friendly when you talk to him, although I can sense he's probing and looking me in the eyes as if to check if I am seduced or impressed by him. He told me once that is dream would be to be able to spend his time seducing women. He also told me this relationship with his girlfriend allowed him to experience love and romantism, but none of his fantasies.
I think he is a special kind of narcissist, that is "using" his girlfriend for gratifications, but also wants total freedom with other women (with the excuse of the dissociative disorder) and no accountability.
He also told me once that nothing affected him and he was pretty nihilistic, and that when his girlfriend cried he felt nothing.
Thank you for your opinion and experience!