u/OldGoat3389

I (27M) have been saving money for years because I’m planning to buy my first house. I work two jobs, barely go out, and honestly sacrificed a lot just to build my savings account. My family knows this because I’ve talked about it for years.

My older sister (31F) is getting married this summer. She and her fiancé are the type of people who constantly spend money they don’t have. Expensive vacations, designer bags, huge parties, etc. A few months ago she called me crying saying she was “temporarily short” on money because of wedding deposits and asked if she could borrow $4,000. She promised she’d pay me back within two months because her fiancé was supposedly getting a bonus at work.

Against my better judgment, I agreed because she’s family.

Well… the two months passed and every time I asked about repayment, there was some excuse. Then last week I found out they upgraded their honeymoon to some luxury resort in Greece and bought first class plane tickets.

I was already furious, but then at a family dinner my sister casually announced that they were still “a little tight on cash” and joked that maybe I could “gift” the money instead as my wedding present to them.

I thought she was kidding. She wasn’t.

I told her absolutely not and said I needed the money returned by the end of the month. My mom immediately jumped in saying I was being selfish and materialistic because “family helps family.” My sister started crying and said I was stressing her out before her wedding.

Then my future brother-in-law snapped at me and said if I was going to hold money over their heads, I shouldn’t have offered it in the first place.

Now half my family is acting like I’m ruining the wedding over money, while the other half privately agrees with me but says I should “keep the peace.”

The worst part is my mom suggested I postpone buying my house for another year because “a wedding is once in a lifetime.”

AITAH for demanding the money back and refusing to help them anymore?