Salam alaykum!
This will be my last question for a while(I hope I didn't bother anyone)
Would you marry a man/woman of your liking(extremely attractive, kind, intelligent, just whatever you wish) that isn't really into religion(non muslim, sunni, shia) but supports you unconditionally, cherishes your opinion and raises the kids the way you want to?
PS: Do you think practicing combat sports/martial arts is a plus?
Salam alaykum!
How much do you value education in your partner?
Will you be satisfied if they have the basic diploma? What if they are illiterate? (yes they do exist sadly... )
Now regarding disabilities:
Are you okay with your partner suffering from disability/ies? Do you think you can live with them?
I look forward to your answers!
Salam alaykum!
Do you care in which way your husbands/would be husbands earn their money? (exploitng, gambling etc).
And do you expect your husband to take care if you financially (per shia law) or split living expenses?
Last but not least:
Would you marry a man that earns less than you earn?
Thanks!
PS: would you take care of your unemployed husband?
Salam alaykum!
I read some ahadith regarding ghayrah and I wanted to know our sisters and brothers opinions on the concept of ghayrah. Sharing your experiences would also be helpful. Thanks!
‘Once we were with the Holy Prophet, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, when he said,
“The best of your women are the child bearing, loving and chaste who are dear at home, humble with her husband, showing her beauty to her husband, fortressed from strangers, who listens to his words and obeys his orders and in private offers to him what he wants and she does not display vulgar manners as man does.’””
“I once heard abu ‘Abd Allah (as) , saying, ‘A woman is a necklace, so consider what you are placing around your neck.’ I (the narrator) also heard him (the Imam) saying, ‘Women are priceless and it applies to both, virtuous and otherwise, among them. Gold and silver cannot become the price for a virtuous woman because she is better than gold and silver. The price of the wicked ones among women is not even worth a piece of dirt because dirt is better than them.”’
“Abu ’Abd Allah (as) , has said, ‘I do not think a man can increase anything good in his belief except that he increases his love for women.’”
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (as) , has said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ has said,
‘I do not love anything from your world except women and perfume.’”
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (as) , has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘It is of the share of good fortune of a Muslim that female members of his family find marriage early on and there is nothing more beloved to Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, than a home that is established in Islam with marriage and there is nothing more hated to Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, than a home that is destroyed in Islam because of division, - divorce.’ Abu ‘Abd Allah (as) , then said, ‘Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, has stressed on His hating divorce in repeated ways because of His extreme dislike of division.’”
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (as) , has said, ‘You can marry a skeptic (average clueless sunni) but do not give in marriage to a skeptic because a woman follows the manners of her husband, and he compels her into his religion.’”
All from Al kafi
“I once saw abu al-Hassan (as) , had used dye. I said, ‘I pray to Allah to keep my soul in service for your cause, I can see you have used dyes.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Yes, readiness is of the matters that increases chastity of women and women neglect chastity because of their husband’s neglect of readiness.’ He (the Imam) then said, ‘Will you be happy to see her without readiness?’ I replied, ‘No, it does not make me happy.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘In the same way it will not make her happy to see you without readiness.’ He (the Imam) then said, ‘It is of the moral behavior of the prophets to maintain cleanliness, use perfumes, shave the hairs and going to bed with one’s wife very often.’ He (the Imam) then said, ‘Sulayman ibn Dawud, ‘Alayhima al-Salam, had one thousand women in one palace of whom three hundred were publicly known and seven hundred of them were secretly married. The Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, had the ability equal to forty men of going to bed with his wives, he (the Messenger of Allah) had nine wives and moved among them every night and day.”’
From Al kafi