"It's a spectrum."
First off, I am aware that asexuality IS a spectrum and I'm not about to invalidate others' experiences.
I know only one other ace person irl, and whenever I mention that I'm ace and I feel one way or have a certain experience, she goes "me too!" then proceeds to tell me how she actually had a different experience entirely. That's fine, I don't mind. The issue is that then, when she brings up something about her being ace and her experiences and I start to share mine in turn, she acts like I've just attacked her with my sex-repulsed asexuality and tells me that "it's a spectrum" in a condescending, dismissive manner. Needless to say, she's a bit problematic in a lot of other ways unrelated to this...
I feel as though she's almost trying to set the expectation that "asexual" means "probably still up for sex." I know that being ace and having sex aren't contradictory, but for me personally it is, and it's tiring to be overlooked entirely in posts about "being inclusive." Thoughts?
EDIT: wow I really worded my post awfully and did not explain the situation clearly, my bad entirely, I think I fixed it now.