u/Ok_LSU_816

I will try to phrase this the best way I can.

I dated a woman mid 50s. She said since she went through menopause, her external vaginal tissue is overly tender in an unpleasant way. She is ok with penetrative intercourse but she said oral is uncomfortable to her.

She is on hormone replacement patches and she said that allows her to have penetrative sex but it did not help with her outer tissue making her receiving oral off the table.

So obviously I respected her preferences and did not suggest me performing oral on her.

Here is my dilemma (it’s not a deal breaker) but I love giving oral every once in a while.

Is this common for women over 50?

I’m a doctor and I will sometimes have to take “on call” phone calls during after hours. It doesn’t happen often but I do occasionally have patients call after hours with an emergency that I can usually take care of over the phone. So I never get “drunk” but might have a single social drink every once in a while.

I don’t have any issues drinking alcohol, but I will usually not order alcohol during dinner

If we went out for a dinner date, would you still order an alcoholic drink if I was not drinking or would you stay alcohol free also.