u/Ok_Campaign6726

I am 23M who has a very busy work and social life, an extrovert who has a lot of hobbies, friends, does a lot of stuff outside of work and still I am finding myself in a very different situation these days

I am finding myself feeling lonely despite having a highly exurbent social life, I feel like there should be someone I can talk to or depend upon, someone I can say mine or someone whom I can be in a romantic partnership with. I am someone who is out of the vicious hookup cycle and no more wish to entertain myself in it.

If someone like me feels this void, this pull for someone then what about men in their 30s or going in their 40s? How do they deal with this loneliness of being a gay man and having no partnership with? Have they made peace with their life or they still long for someone? What does one do? Go on endlessly looking for someone or leave what is not in one's hand?

I have been thinking about gays and attachment for some while now, and i find myself questioning why is it that gay men get attached so easily when they date ? Like just in the first few dates or catchups, gay men get very easily attached to the other person and start thinking about a life together.

And it is something that I have personally experienced also and is it because we find very few geniune people and when we do, we go all in? Is it because majority of gay men want to hookup and have casuals and when we find someone who is sane not running in this vicious hookup cycle, we think of them as the "one"?

What other explaination do you think explains this phenomenon?

I am gay 23, and I feel done with all these dating apps and grindr. Like I feel, is there an end to it. how many people will I go on having hookups with ? like, I have lost interest and hope in finding a boyfriend, all boyfriend material that i have met either turn out to be fuckbois or are not sexually compatible.

does anyone feel the same ?

hey, I am making a social media template and i am 70% done, used claude also but the result is not good with what I want. is there someone who can help me out ?

I have a reference to what I'd like though.

thanks