What to do; My spouse (M43) called me (F34) a c***
My spouse called me a cunt after not being empathetic enough when he had a stomach flu. I confronted him the next day and he denied it repeatedly, then down played it saying he was delusional from being sick, then tried to say I should have checked in on him more while being sick and he felt hurt. Then 2 days called me it again in a joking manor; I got up to leave the room and sleep.in my kids bed and he stated "are you really going to start a fight over this, I was joking" Each time I help a very firm boundry. 2 days later he asked if he can just call me "The C word"
It has left my nervous system completely rattled. We have 2 young children and thinking about leaving but its such a huge decision with kids involved.
How would you handle this situation?