Husband not getting my expections even if I word them clearly?
From my husband's perspective - I always nitpick and never happy with whatever he does.
My perspective- I married him last year after dating and living in for 3 years. Initially, I made peace with him not doing things, not doing things the right way, not doing things that are important.
But now I am done adjusting and compromising as I feel there is only as much one can shrink. I wanted a certain black bag, he got me an ugly bag of HIS choice, nowhere close to what I like it to be. I suck up for thoughtful personalised gifts, he gifts me a generic hamper from amazon.
I always wished for a Europe honeymoon, you say you can't arrange right after wedding expenses which I accept and would make up for it on the first anniversary. And then ends up planning for Bali and Vietnam and expected me to be elated when he broke the news.
I mean how can you not think of my likes and wants after all these years together and also expect me to be ok with all things you do, even if they are nowhere close to things I have expressed of my liking? And for the context, we both earn well and money isn't kinda concern for us. And no, I am not greedy, thankless or materialistic, I can afford every single thing on my own, but that's not what's the point here.
How am I supposed to handle it better when I clearly speak of my expectations and he clearly overrides them and expects me to be thankful that he is trying his best.