u/OkDirt926

I never had a full cabinet of makeup but I certainly had more than I need: 4 Eyeshadow palettes, 10 blushes, 4 lipsticks, 5 shimmery topper single shades, everything else was pretty much just one product per category. I don’t have time for daily makeup so I mostly wear makeup on the weekends. That’s why I barely panned most of my stuff despite having them for 6+ yrs.

I think that’s certainly overconsumption on my end. And I don’t want to let them just sit on my shelf most of the time. I asked around and my friends plus my sister took some off my hand. (I wash my brush after every single use and sanitize them once a month so they happily accept my already over opening period products 🥺)

So I have a really successful 1.5 yrs of no buy makeup and cut down 1/2 of my existing collection, which is a huge win for me yay. But now I see a really special offer on brushes and going absolutely crazy back and forth if I should get it.

I have about 60+ brushes now. I don’t care about the handle design but I love experience how different density or shape of the brushes would effect how they perform different make up products/ textures.

I will mention the specific product below and will hide them since I don’t know if it’s acceptable.
>!I always want to buy Sep pro brush 47 and 71 but the price is crazy!< >!🫠!< >!especially for someone living in a developing country like me. So I hold back. I bought a few pricey-to-me makeup brushes (Hourglass and Mario, Sigma) before and abosolutely loved them. So it still lingers in my head that the Sep 47 and 71 would be amazing also). Btw Sephora is not even in my country yet so I always have to buy from third party/ private reseller. I know a girl who is legit and has been in business for 10 yrs. She uploaded yesterday that she has about 10 Sephora pro brush set holiday edition 2023 in stock. But it’s been a long time so the box is damaged and her special offer is $40 a set. It includes brushes 47, 71, 59, 93, 98, 20, 27, 15. It seems like a absolutely score but I technically don’t need new brushes since I have plenty diverse shapes and wash them after each use.!< >!🥲!< >!The head and the heart are not speaking the same language right now. And tbh I know someone else might benefit from the set since it covers a wide range of purposes for each brush. This as a starter pack would benefit them much more than which they can add to my already big brush collection.!<

I truly need some opinion on this.

Hello everyone, for this particular issue I really don’t know who to talk to or ask for advice. I (25F) have even tried asking professionals, but I still haven’t been able to apply their advice in real life.

My grandmother (86) grew up in very harsh conditions. She had to leave home to work at the age of 12, taking care of her aunt’s child. Later she worked in factories, got married, and had her first child at 19. She has told many stories, and I can understand to some extent that who she is today is shaped by many difficult and not very warm experiences from her youth. The way she speaks can be quite harsh, people who love her can overlook it, but strangers meeting her for the first time are often shocked.

She was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer in February last year. Her treatment initially went relatively well, but she caused a lot of emotional distress for everyone around her, yelling at doctors, family members, accusing us of being unfilial for wanting her to get treatment. At one point, the head doctor even called my mom in to ask the family to talk to her, but it’s extremely difficult. She doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice. So after radiation therapy, she refused surgery and chemotherapy as prescribed, and instead chose to live with the disease.

After that, she started calling everyone she knows, close or not, even people she hadn’t seen in 20 years, to cry and say she’s about to die. Then she complained that we didn’t take her to another hospital saying maybe they would be more specialized than the current hospital. But the truth is she doesn’t cooperate at all, from taking medication to maintaining a proper routine. She keeps the TV on almost all day at maximum volume, watches dramas, calls people to cry, and whenever she sees family members, she says she just wants to die to be free of burden, even though all of us want her to stay positive and continue treatment, especially since doctors said her prognosis was good and she could live another five years. When I remind her to take medicine, she yells and tells me to give her more so she can die sooner and stop suffering.

Yesterday she went for a check-up and was instantly hospitalized since the cancer grew to other organs. I’m very sad, but I also expected it, stopping treatment midway makes things worsen much faster. She wants to stay in a private hospital room for comfort but still insists on having a family member with her 24/7. Right now, my mom wants me to take care of her, about 8 hours a day, since I just quit my job and have free time. On one hand, I understand and want to support my mom, but on the other hand, I’m applying for jobs and hope to start working again soon because my family is not well off.

Up to now, all my grandparents’ expenses have been covered by my parents, and they have lived with us. They don’t have savings, though luckily health insurance covers a large portion. Currently, both my parents are retired, with a combined pension of just over 10 million VND per month, roughly about 400 USD, while a private hospital room costs 1.6 million VND per day, around 65 USD per day. I’m really stressed about this. We may also need to hire a caregiver later, which would be another major expense. Previously, when my grandfather was ill before he passed away, we hired a caregiver who was very kind and skilled, but my grandmother constantly scolded and insulted her, making her want to quit repeatedly. My mom had to beg her to stay. I’m really anxious about what’s coming. My grandmother has four children, but our family will bear most of the responsibility because my father is the eldest son.

I’ve heard that many people become more difficult as they age. But honestly, my grandmother is not just difficult, her words have become increasingly harsh and hurtful. For example, my cousin (27M) has been busy working and preparing for his wife’s childbirth, so he hasn’t visited often, and my grandmother called many people to badmouth him, calling him unfilial, and even said he wouldn’t be allowed to carry her memorial photo, only my sister and I would. Her behavior is becoming more absurd, and I feel like she’s pushing everyone further away. At least that’s how I feel. Being around her feels extremely negative and emotionally draining. I once reheated porridge so hot that I could barely hold the bowl, but she threw it away, saying it was cold and inedible, then started crying. Every chance she gets, she calls me disrespectful and unfilial, saying we’re abandoning her. But what are we supposed to do, are we all meant to stop studying and working and just sit around breathing air together to survive?