Husband keeps asking how to help, but I even do not know the answer
Problem: I’m currently dealing with a stressful situation with my father’s health, and I’m in a different country from him. It’s been really hard on me emotionally, and I feel anxious and drained most days. I don’t have the energy to socialize or do much, so I’ve mostly been staying at home.
My husband does check in from time to time and asks what he can do to support me, but honestly, that question feels overwhelming. I don’t have the mental energy to figure out what I need or give him an answer—I barely understand it myself right now.
Because of that, he’s just been continuing with his normal routine—playing sports, going to friends’ birthday (planned prior), etc. Meanwhile, I’m at home feeling low and starting to feel alone, even though I know he’s technically trying to help.
Context: When he first asked how to support me, I said “nothing” because I couldn’t think straight at the time. I don’t think he’s a bad or uncaring person, and I know he probably assumes I’ll tell him if I need something.
I think part of the problem is that I don’t have the capacity to think what are my needs right now, but I still wish he would take more initiative or just be there without me having to explain everything.
Advice Request: Am I being unfair for feeling this way? How would you handle this kind of situation where you don’t even know what kind of support you need?
TL;DR:Dealing with my dad’s health from another country and feeling emotionally drained. Husband asks how to help, but I don’t have the energy to answer, so he continues his normal life. Now I feel alone but also unsure if it’s my fault for not being able to communicate my needs.