u/Ok-Cartographer-9457

I have a friend that I have seen in a few years but we used to live in the same place. However, we talk regularly on the phone. This friend reaches out to me for support (they have specifically said I'm calling you for support on X". I regularly listen to them and talk about all aspects of their life. I've had a pretty quiet few years-have been helping family etc.

I pre-planned a phone conversation with this friend to tell that I would be moving back to the place we used to live. It happened to co-inside with a day that one of my parents was diagnosed with an illness and I casually mentioned it to me friend (they talk about their parents as well). My friend then launched into a monologue about how I was only now moving because "I felt trapped because of my parent" and that if I "had really wanted to move back years ago then I would done it already and how I shouldn't do it". They went on and about it and would hardly even let me interject. They weren't asking me questions.

My move has been planned for a long time. The reason I haven't done it yet is because I've been saving up money to live alone and have a savings cushion. This is something everyone else in my life seems to understand.

Somehow my friend had this entire story in their head made up about me without even asking me any questions.

The part that I find so odd is what has this person been doing calling me and asking for support and telling me about their life but they seemingly don't even care to understand my life or even want me to live in the same place that they do. Have I just been someone that had been too nice and had time on my hands to listen to the but they don't really value the friendship?

My parent's indoor only cat (4 years old and lives with another 5 year old cat) is incredibly loving but has had bad nerves since my parents adopted them from a rescue.

My parent has cancer and has had more people in the house than normal. I previously noticed a small spot of hairloss on my parent's cat that I assumed was from over grooming due to nerves from strangers in the house. Today, I checked and the spot has gotten substantially bigger from the stomach up towards the check area and there's also a spot of hair loss on the tail.

At this point, it seems like we should go to the vet. Should we have any concern for any other issue other than over grooming? As in, can this wait until next week or should we head to the vet ASAP?

I have a friend that I haven't seen since I moved out the city/state early in the early years of the pandemic. However, we talk regularly and talk on the phone. This friend reaches out to me for support, specifically uses the word 'I'm calling because I need support". I would have totally understood if this friendship dropped off because we've been far from each other but again-she reaches out to let me know things going with her life and then I follow up.

I've been in my hometown near my parents and have stayed wayyyy long that I initially anticipated. Not much has been going on and talking about aging parents isn't a joyful topic so I honestly haven't much to say about myself but I've been fine with listening to other people and still supporting them from afar while I've just had some quiet years.

Cut to-I told my friend that I'm moving back to the city where I used to live and she still lives. She immediately tried talking me out of it and went on and on about it. I do not have any bad history with this place that someone would think it was a bad idea for me to live there again. Everyone else in my life is telling me I need to go back there. For someone that has come to me so frequently for support and that I've listened to every detail about her life-why would she not want me to live near her again. Have I just a person that has too much time on their hands and has been able to listen to her vent but she doesn't really value the friendship?

I may have missed in the sub but is there a compilation of the best thoracic mobility exercises?

My friend is getting married to a partner they've complained against consistently and overall enraged them. The main fights consist of arguments over how they spend their time. My take is that it's just two people who fundamentally want to spend their time in different ways. Neither is bad person but my friend basically tries to browbeat their partner into doing what they want. The fights become intense and my friend becomes enraged. I suggested multiple times that my friend and their partner should see a couples therapist but I should have done a better job of shutting down the conversation. I can think of all the complaints my friend has made about their partner but I can't think of single good thing they've said about them. None of this should be any of my business but my friend came to me repeatedly to complain over a span of years. In hindsight, I'm wondering what my friend has disclosed

Again it's my fault for not shutting it down.

They now are having a very large, fancy wedding requiring travel. It will be extremely costly for me to attend. The whole thing just feels off to me. It feels weird to go to a wedding knowing what I know about the relationship and spending so much money to do so.