u/Nozzle-Jockey26

My mother passed away in March, leaving my dad by himself. This was not the way anyone thought things would go...my dad is in horrible shape.....79, severe COPD, mobility issues. He currently spends 90% of his time watching TV, he goes from the living room chair to the bathroom and that's about it. Lately he puts off going to the bathroom for as long as possible because he get's so out of breath doing it. (20 feet) He is a veteran, and gets a teachers pension. He talks about assisted living but has no plan to pay for it, and doesn't understand that the VA doesn't do that. I guess I'm just asking the group here....what the heck do I do? What's step 1 here and are there organizations that can help. I understand that he'll have to do a "spend down" to qualify for anything as he has assets and there's a 5 year look back.