u/NotOnYerNelly

Not the usual post I think. I have a new line manager and from the moment I met him, I was unsure of him. I let it slide and carried on.

I had been booked onto a few courses that would really help my career, publicly he supported me but privately he would say things or drop lines that he would not be supportive.

Then the first one hit, I got an E-mail advising that as per request, I had been removed from the fundamentals of Project management. I read down the chain and my manager had asked for me to be removed and replaced with him.

I was livid, I called him and asked about it. He just said that I didn’t need the course as I don’t look after projects(untrue)

Two days later, I get an Email with my start date for business management degree, which my previous had helped me get onto. immediately he advised the course leader that I was not ready for the course and had me removed.

Yesterday he had my IOSH course cancelled. Again I called him and he simply said that he didn’t think I needed it and I was already about to do the SMSTS course (which I don’t need and already cover in my CITB black managers card) and then let slip he was booked onto both the IOSH and NEBOSH courses.

I know that he is currently doing his HNC Construction management through work which I already have and I think he doesn’t want me doing anything that he hasn’t already got. Not extending me the same courtesy that’s been extended to him.

I work for a company that say they pride themselves on training and progression but so far I have had 3 of the 4 courses I’ve been booked in cancelled for petty reasons.

We are also highly unionised and I am in RMT. Would I be petty to take this up with them. I am really mad but I also like the rest of my team and don’t want to cause tension.

Edit: I have decided that I am going to try and find another position in the company or find a better Position outside of it. I am In no rush to find something new so hopefully I can find something thought out.

I remember it specifically, being in our hallway and being given a row for something I hadn’t done, getting hit with a hair brush as my punishment.

My mum ended the row by saying “one day when you have kids, you will understand” my answer, I will never forget was cold, I just looked at my mum and told her that when I have kids, I’d be nothing like you!

Now I had a good childhood, great friends and great adventures out but at home, we were loved but definitely neglected. Never had lunch at school, never had lunch money and always knew there was no point in asking either.

I was never told to brush my teeth, hair or have a bath. My clothes were often the cleanest looking dirty item off the floor, I was probably the kind of kid that smelt bad -no one ever said but I recognise it now. Wasn’t encouraged for school or exams.

Years later, I am now a Dad, I look after my kids in a way my parents couldn’t or wouldn’t. I’m there, I read to them, I encourage them, I allow them to make mistakes but I also talk to them, I put there needs ahead of mine. My kids are doing well, but for me, my proudest accomplishment so far is ensuring they don’t have the same anxiety and lack of confidence I had and still carry (though hidden)

All the while I still think of the time I told my mum I’d be nothing like her. In many ways I’m similar to her, college late in life and finding a career late in life but my kids have present parents.

Hi guys, I am being put on the SMSTS course. Are there any recommended resources or apps that I can use to help me pass the exam.

I am a bit slower on the uptake of classes and writing good notes so really want to start my homework before the classes and exam.

Any help or suggestions would really be appreciated!