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Moving to Noida by end of this month with family. Office is in sector 90. Will it be safe to live around that area? Any places to avoid during late night?

Asking for a safety pov.

Shifting to sector 90 with family, looking for 2BHK around the area. Ask is to stay around 10-15 minutes near to the office. Considering Sikka, Lotus Zing as of now.

Please suggest good societies, or societies to avoid and if you have any flat, do let me know.

Can move in 20 days.

So I work in consulting and everything is urgent. This specific situation made me mentally check out of the job.

So I am working in an engagement with an engagement management and other one leading independently with same partner. This manager promised me to focus on his client by dedicating time as the timelines were sensitive (due to their inability to push back client) and promised that the team would help me in my engagement. My client is a little slow but I am expected to drive and push them. So this manager makes everything priority in his project and work for him, and it’s been a couple of weeks I am raising issue that team is so busy that even I am not able to work on my engagement. Every time something comes up and that automatically becomes priority and no one is helping me with my engagement.

How should I navigate this situation? How should I establish boundaries? How should I prepare myself so that I do not get in this situation going forward?

TLDR: manager pushing everything urgent for his project and harming my KPIs despite agreeing to let team help in my engagement.

So I work in consulting and everything is urgent. This specific situation made me mentally check out of the job.

So I am working in an engagement with an engagement management and other one leading independently with same partner. This manager promised me to focus on his client by dedicating time as the timelines were sensitive (due to their inability to push back client) and promised that the team would help me in my engagement. My client is a little slow but I am expected to drive and push them. So this manager makes everything priority in his project and work for him, and it’s been a couple of weeks I am raising issue that team is so busy that even I am not able to work on my engagement. Every time something comes up and that automatically becomes priority and no one is helping me with my engagement.

How should I navigate this situation? How should I establish boundaries? How should I prepare myself so that I do not get in this situation going forward?

TLDR: manager pushing everything urgent for his project and harming my KPIs despite agreeing to let team help in my engagement.

So I work in consulting and everything is urgent. This specific situation made me mentally check out of the job.

So I am working in an engagement with an engagement management and other one leading independently with same partner. This manager promised me to focus on his client by dedicating time as the timelines were sensitive (due to their inability to push back client) and promised that the team would help me in my engagement. My client is a little slow but I am expected to drive and push them. So this manager makes everything priority in his project and work for him, and it’s been a couple of weeks I am raising issue that team is so busy that even I am not able to work on my engagement. Every time something comes up and that automatically becomes priority and no one is helping me with my engagement.

How should I navigate this situation? How should I establish boundaries? How should I prepare myself so that I do not get in this situation going forward?

TLDR: manager pushing everything urgent for his project and harming my KPIs despite agreeing to let team help in my engagement.

I work in consulting in a client-facing cybersecurity/risk role at the Assistant Manager level, and I’m struggling with boundaries and sustainability. I wanted honest advice from people who’ve navigated similar environments.
My official work hours are roughly 9 AM – 7 PM, but in practice the expectation is much broader because:
clients send ad hoc requests constantly,

timelines are extremely aggressive,

outputs/dependencies often come late,

and there’s a strong “always available” culture.

The bigger challenge is that my reporting manager personally prefers working in the evenings and is generally more supportive of people logging in late vs wrapping up earlier. So even if nobody explicitly says “you must work late,” the culture indirectly rewards evening availability.
I’ve noticed a pattern where:
meetings get scheduled post 7 PM regularly,

messages continue through the evening,

there’s pressure to stay responsive,

and saying no feels politically risky.

I’m trying to preserve a 7 PM – 9 PM personal/offline window during weekdays because I’ve realized I’m burning out mentally. I’m still okay supporting critical escalations later if truly needed, but I don’t want routine work and meetings consuming every evening.
The problem is I don’t know how to establish this boundary without:
appearing disengaged,

hurting visibility,

damaging growth opportunities,

or being labeled “not flexible.”

I also don’t feel senior enough yet to fully dictate my own schedule.
A few questions for people who’ve survived consulting long term:
How do you establish boundaries in teams where leadership itself prefers late-night work?

Is it better to communicate boundaries explicitly, or gradually train expectations through behavior?

How do you say no to post-7 PM meetings diplomatically?

Have any of you successfully protected personal time without hurting your career trajectory?

At what point do you decide the culture itself is incompatible vs trying harder to adapt?

Would genuinely appreciate practical advice from people who’ve dealt with this in consulting environments.

TL;DR: Assistant Manager in consulting struggling with constant late-evening work culture. Officially work 9–7, but leadership/client expectations extend much later, and my manager personally prefers evening work. Trying to protect a 7–9 PM offline window for sustainability while still supporting critical escalations later if needed. Unsure how to set boundaries without looking disengaged or hurting career growth. Looking for advice from others in consulting on how they handled this.

Got married last year into an arranged marriage setup. No respect from wife or in-laws. Wife is pseudo feminist, only for money and travel, she would say, you do you, I do mine, everything else Iike taking care of house and expenses, you do.

Too much to write, but no power to type. Contemplating extreme steps but don’t want them, too much to achieve.

Help me how you got out in such situations.

Hi everyone,

I am a assistant manager in a upcoming consulting firm which is started by ex big4’s. I have big 4 experience and joined this firm as it was upcoming.

Now my client is a dead beat client who changes scopes now and then, provides information last minute and blames everything on us even though we did everything right. My upper management agrees to everything that client says. They say, yes this time client has hit our self respect and we should not tolerate this, but as soon as client says something, it’s important.

However my problem is I am available from 9AM to 7 PM and asked my manager that I need break as well as time to do home chores so I’ll not be available after 7PM. However if something is assigned to me, I’ll take it up after 9PM. But my manager does not care about it. They will not even care if it’s late. But they have a dedicated hour during the day for physical fitness blocked on their calendar. They Will bend meetings as per their availability.

I want to establish healthy boundaries at work and I would like to keep them. What should I do? Help needed. How did you manage to establish boundaries.

Hi everyone,

I am a assistant manager in a upcoming consulting firm which is started by ex big4’s. I have big 4 experience and joined this firm as it was upcoming.

Now my client is a dead beat client who changes scopes now and then, provides information last minute and blames everything on us even though we did everything right. My upper management agrees to everything that client says. They say, yes this time client has hit our self respect and we should not tolerate this, but as soon as client says something, it’s important.

However my problem is I am available from 9AM to 7 PM and asked my manager that I need break as well as time to do home chores so I’ll not be available after 7PM. However if something is assigned to me, I’ll take it up after 9PM. But my manager does not care about it. They will not even care if it’s late. But they have a dedicated hour during the day for physical fitness blocked on their calendar. They Will bend meetings as per their availability.

I want to establish healthy boundaries at work and I would like to keep them. What should I do? Help needed. How did you manage to establish boundaries.

Hi everyone,

I am a assistant manager in a upcoming consulting firm which is started by ex big4’s. I have big 4 experience and joined this firm as it was upcoming.

Now my client is a dead beat client who changes scopes now and then, provides information last minute and blames everything on us even though we did everything right. My upper management agrees to everything that client says. They say, yes this time client has hit our self respect and we should not tolerate this, but as soon as client says something, it’s important.

However my problem is I am available from 9AM to 7 PM and asked my manager that I need break as well as time to do home chores so I’ll not be available after 7PM. However if something is assigned to me, I’ll take it up after 9PM. But my manager does not care about it. They will not even care if it’s late. But they have a dedicated hour during the day for physical fitness blocked on their calendar. They Will bend meetings as per their availability.

I want to establish healthy boundaries at work and I would like to keep them. What should I do? Help needed. How did you manage to establish boundaries.

Got married into an arranged marriage setup. She is short tempered and stubborn with things, like she would go to any length to resist, show protest or get things her own way.

My bugging point is her friendship with one of the boys. He calls her every 4-5 days, don’t know what they talk about, as I am not usually around when conversations happen, she says the friendship is platonic but how does two working adult get so much time to call every 4-5 days. Like everytime, she would say it’s been a while I haven’t met him, and that guy also does not understand boundaries. Like why are you calling a women who is married.

I am spiraling and need solid advice.

Thanks!

Edit: she has more male friends than female ones, and when I ask about it, she has always been defensive for her friends.

Edit: there are two friends, including this persons who ask for money and has asked a couple of times in last one year. When I say no, she says, she would like to maintain friendship. They return although.