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Is it a feeling? Is it a need for support emotionally?
If you want to do mundane things alongside someone? Like constantly missing a part of yourself like a strange void?
Ik the physical aspect of it when it becomes haram to avoid getting married out of fear of committing a sin.
Do you think as there is a narrative that you should be content with your life as it is and then get married so the person adds onto your already beautiful life?
What are the most important things you should consider while searching for someone?
For me it is
Compatibility(Religious and overall), Attraction, Security.
Is financial security important to consider prior to getting married in a Man? And How much should it factor in?
Please share your thoughts and things that you think are important. It will definitely help me. ❤️

Guys! Have you ever thought about how Hollywood portrays a hardworking, stressed, unbathed, unshowered, unsupported woman alone in her marriage with a man that only financially contributes, and she is basically a married single woman (mother) in its movies as a common reality?

For the last 20 years that I have been alive and consuming media, this one stereotypical mother’s struggle has been shown over and over again as a reality, which I know it is for a lot of women. And while I know this is a painful reality for many women, the way it is repeatedly depicted often feels less like awareness and more like a bleak warning against marriage and motherhood itself.

It has always been so scary to me, and it is shown over and over again in a completely off-putting, foreshadowing, hopeless manner. There’s something deeply unsettling about how normalized this image has become in film and television, as though exhaustion, loneliness, and emotional abandonment are inevitable parts of being a wife and mother.

So many women around me, young women my age, 18 to 22, hate the idea of having kids and the sacrifice of carrying the child, then delivering, then the care and upbringing. I suspect the way it is portrayed. It must be some kind of propaganda, as we now know that 🧃 they’re against families and they’re against women having kids, and they have succeeded, especially in the West, where women have more rights over their bodies, and among many young women in my vicinity.

Not only have they made us hate women that choose to have children , they have made it natural for us to hate children, and the simple kindness and care that were once extended normally by the general public to pregnant women or young moms is now a foreign concept.
What are your views about this?

{bcg cntxt: 23F thinkmaxing}

Context : 22F
You ever wonder that age is just a concept after 18 and people have different priorities in different eras of their lives It is fine if both are 2 consenting adults, age gaps over 5 6years are normal in a marriage.
But then you start talking to a guy and he just pisses you off w every thing that comes out of his mouth and you realize why are they single still at the big age of 30. (perhaps more as they do love to round off)
Because they can’t talk to women without belittling them especially if they are younger or giving them advice constantly without being asked? did i ask u sir?
And if you say no they get so offended like you insulted them by not agreeing with them.
I genuinely want to like a guy 😭🙏.

I come across this superior ideology almost daily especially when i state my pov that according to shi’ie beliefs that…..
I always get hit w “I don’t believe in sects we are all muslims” 🤨 and they feel super smug about it too w the corners of their mouths raised a little (almost teasing almost looking down at me) (maybe it’s just in my head)
it just rubs me the wrong way 😭
Am i the problem?
^Give me good clapbacks yall 😡

so I have this question I recently got into a conversation with a friend where she was insinuating that the prophet didn’t know better and he did something wrong and then the God instructed him this is what you did wrong and he fixed that.
and I really got pissed about it and I told her that this is so illogical. This is so wrong acc to shi’ie perspective.
then she posed her question saying that weren’t prophets taught all in a real time. God guided them when they didn’t know better.
😃⁉️ Idk i’m confused yall.

Recently got into a discussion regarding this topic where a male gym friend told me that running is not fir girls it makes you boobs small and your periods lighter and is not healthy for female body…….

ummmmm…. i’m new to fitness so idk abt it tbh is this fr?

I want to ask if giving charity/sadqa to people you are really in need is better than beggars that come knocking on your door?

We get a lot of beggars in our colony there is a mafia in my country i.e Pakistan that poses as needy and begs and makes way beyond what an avg middle class salary man makes in a month they make it in under 2 weeks.

Now everytime someone’s at the door you can not discern for yourself if the person really needs help or not.

As precaution because i do want the charity we give away to go to the real people that are in need…. So i tend to do it online.

However everytime I have to refuse the Sa’il I feel remorse or guilt and it effects me that maybe this one was really needy as we do not know better…