u/No_Face9845

I think I am thinking too deeply but I truly want this student to feel at home.
We are hosting a student for 26/27 school year and reading through the rules the agency has for them to me is so strict... Most of them are rules I will not make my child have when they are older but also some that I am questioning anyway.

• They are not allowed to have their door shut unless they are changing?
  • I have a toddler, who loves to talk, if they can't shut their door, they will not be able to get away from the toddler and I know I need a break, so why wouldn't they?
• They cannot do schoolwork in their room; it needs to be a shared space...
  • this leads me again to me having a toddler, if they are in a shared space and not allowed to do it in their bedroom, they are going to be bothered and not be able to focus.
  • I was going to get a little desk for the room so they could set up their stuff and have a set space for this.
• There also needs to be a limit on their internet usage and cannot have their phone in their bedroom at night.
  • With them being teenagers and their parents allow them to use their phone at night, why can't they?
  • I personally use my phone as an alarm clock, I assume they will as well..
• No food or drink in the bedrooms?
  • I am going to be honest; I love a late-night bowl of cereal in bed.
  • If they are responsible and tidy up after themselves, why can't they?
• They must pay for their own snacks and toiletries... and should not be snacking anytime, there needs to be a limit
  • I will never be one of these people and if you are, that is fine, not how I will be. I am a snacker and my kid is a snacker. We eat meals but sometimes you need a little snack and I don't care when..
  • When we are grocery shopping, I will not require her to have a separate transaction, I feel like this is silly, I offered to host, they are my kid as well, little things like that do not need to be purchased by them..
  • I do know that I will have them pay for their school lunches if they eat at school, if they want to bring their lunch, it will just be added to our grocery list and purchased weekly..
• They should only talk to their parents once a week, twice max?...
  • This one is absolutely mind blowing... As a parent, no one can tell me that my child cannot talk to me as they want
• They need a set of chores every day and to not let jet lag be an excuse why they do not do them.
  • 1... After a day of traveling I am beat, I want a day to relax and I am not going to be doing any chores myself, as the adult.
  • 2.... I don't do chores daily myself either.. I work full time, have a toddler, and my husband travels, if I don't do the dishes for one day.. it is not the end of the world. We are a very relaxed household. We aren't dirty people, but toys and clutter are not the end of the world as long as things are not actually dirty.
• They aren't allowed to drive or get their license.
  • Does the program know if they do? Or is this like a thing where they can't because they are on a visa?

I have so many questions, but I am just kind of shook up about all of the rules, we of course will have ground rules, but I feel like a lot of these are just too much.. Any advice on what you did/didn't do?

TIA!