u/No_Cream8504

my family is a low income household in australia. my dad is single & unemployed, and we are currently living with my grandma and have been for ~3.5 years now. has no prospects of getting a job, tries but not hard enough. maybe looks for one every 3 months when he realises how much he is in the shit. he's on centrelink receiving unemployment benefits and prior me turning 18 also received child support. he lost that this year as i'm no longer under 18

i've started going to uni this year so i'm getting youth allowance, $487 a fortnight, which he originally wanted half for rent purposes, and i thought that was okay to take the edge off. however, he's started wanting more and more, im now giving $350 every time, leaving me only around 150 for myself. he doesn't need this money for rent as my grandma also pays, so this money is likely getting wasted to go towards vapes, cigarettes, and his junky af friends. i have no part time job currently as i haven't been able to find one, job market is rough for students. i want to save money with hopes to move out so there's been few times i've tried to nudge giving him the agreed half, but he gets upset and angry that i don't want to give him more, saying that he pays for so much and hates living without money until his next paycheck which comes every fortnight, same as mine. get a job then, dude? he's 50 and has been unemployed since 2020, besides occasional casual labour work which he refuses to go back too anyway

i give the money to him only out of compliance, to anger him is something i don't want to do as he has a history of violence and being rather abusive. we have a fairly ok relationship now as he is no longer an alcoholic how he was but he's been involved around the wrong people for a few years now, and i worry that this money i'm giving him is just being wasted when i could be saving it or using it for things i actually need. there's been a lot of instances of him using me for my money before as well, one where last year i took out a grand from my savings to give to him because he 'really needed it' and said he would pay it back, he has never paid it back. another time, he asked for $300, i gave it to him because again he would pay it back. has he paid it back?