How to handle a trouble-making aunt
Salam ladies!
Mods I am not seeking marriage/relationship advice so please don't delete this post!!!
For context, am in my early 30s living away from family. And unmarried. My younger cousin, who is very close to me, who I consider equal to my younger sister, is getting married in December. I am genuinely happy for her as she is marrying the love of her life. Everyone is happy about this wedding.
The problem is her mother, my aunt. For some reason she has decided that MY marriage should take place before her daughter and has set early December as my deadline to get married.
She has been constantly messaging me and my mother, sending us all kinds of WhatsApp/Facebook groups to join and sharing bio-datas of random men.
We are South Asian so you can imagine the pressure on my poor mother, who is already dealing with society having an unmarried daughter over the age of 30. Now her own sister is harassing her :/
Obviously I am rejecting the horrible proposals she sends but my mother seems to buckle under the pressure.
I live away from my hometown so Alhamdulillah I do not have face the worst of it but I do feel guilty for my mother, as I feel I have left her to deal with these problems on her own.
I just don't get this weird fixation to have me married before her daughter, it's like she doesn't want unmarried women at her daughter's wedding.
This same aunt was harassing me years ago when I was picking my high-school subjects and forcing me to pick math and science when I really wanted to study history, political science etc. She would call my mom daily and influence her to stop me from picking these subjects. I fought with her and stood my ground and did what I wanted to do.
But I just don't want to fight anymore.
How will I enjoy this wedding (my little cousin who I love and adore) if everyone is going to make it miserable for me?