u/No_Bear_5661

My husband and I have been married going on 8 years and the first time I met my husband’s brothers wife/ the new SIL all she did was talk bad about everyone. People in the family I haven’t met and all her kids referring to them as bitches. She is too judgy for me, she has to put people down in any way. ..but my husband says she doesn’t mean any of it “ that’s just how she is” . Fast forward to last year we move to the same state as them, husband wants a closer relationship with his brother and have the cousins be close. We are hosting a birthday party at our house , her adult daughter has a half finished tattoo and is talking to me about finishing it. ( half my body is covered in tattoos. I have one leg sleeve & one arm sleeve.
We talking and Her mom (my SIL) says I will cut you out of the will, don’t you do it ,Tattoos are trash and looks right at me. And says it two more times tattoos are trash you better not do it I’ll disown you . …. I’m speechless. This is my house. I have tattoos.
Later that evening I told my husband, she is no longer welcome at our house and he said that’s not right. She didn’t mean it towards me . I wish he defended me as much as he defends her. I’m so unconfrontational that I never say anything when she says mean things, but this one bothered me , she was at my house and clearly taking about me. AITA